Hm. Well, if she's ISTj, she's definitely not as comfortable to get along with as Phobie. And she didn't get along in the past with someone who I think is ENFj.Originally Posted by Expat
You're right, I don't know what he said to her, though whatever it was provoked a strong reaction from her. However, I'll describe the conversation and you can tell me if I misinterpreted my conclusion that we understood each other.
I approached him at a convenient time (i.e. when nobody else was talking to him and nothing had just happened to make him upset) and told him that I needed his input on a couple of problems I was having. I told him about what I was observing and how it was a bad thing (bad for their health, morale, etc.). He agreed that wasn't good and we discussed what had been done in the past about scheduling and work shifts. He didn't give me a definite "This is what we should/are going to do" answer, which usually means that he needs to think the matter over and will address it later. As we were concluding the conversation, I said, "This is a part of my job - to take care of these girls." He gave me a high five, which he only does if you or something you've done has pleased him, and had a happy face toward me.
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The second major thing that I really didn't like was how she treated another girl, criticizing her, lecturing her, and basically breaking her spirit and desire to work. Angela's main complaint was that she was lazy. I won't get further into it, but the whole thing disappointed and angered me. That girl wasn't a favorite of our boss, either, but at least he treated her with some politeness and understanding.
Some other notes on Angela -
She likes having lots to do at once. She says it keeps her from being bored.
She also likes to organize and keep things neat and tidy. She says one of her favorite office jobs is to count money and make sure it evens out. She doesn't like summers (the busy time of the year) because people come in and "make a mess of the [read: her] office."
She likes crafts more than art. She's more likely to like something because it's "cute" rather than artistic or even (my standard of) beautiful. I don't think she'd find my photo albums appealing.
She's a good dresser and likes to wear makeup. She's generally a clean, put-together person.
As I've indicated before, if she thinks you're wrong, she won't sound very nice and will come across a bit harsh. However, when I've kind of reflected herself back at her, she reacts and either says something like, "*little laugh* I can't believe I just said that! Isn't that horrible?" or "I didn't at all mean it like that." She doesn't want people to think she's mean.
Her way of showing appreciation for people is to make them a gift or take them out somewhere. Her most common way to make conversation with me and other people is to ask about what we're doing relating to school, work, and other activities and what our upcoming plans are for the next couple of months.
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