Originally Posted by jewels
I appreciate your trying to help, but it's not like I'm incapable of talking to him. And I'm not giving him a present. :D
I think part of it is that I'm not living in a very good neighborhood at the moment (and live alone), so I've probably gotten in a bad habit of not being friendly. I usually just completely ignore guys when they stare at me, to keep them from saying anything. But most of the time they say something anyway, inspite of me acting like they don't exist. So if I was friendly, I imagine it'd be worse.
And it's not like I was obsessing about him for years. I had boyfriends or was dating people for most of that time.
Yes, I can be a little shy, but I've also walked up to quite a few total strangers and asked them out. I talked to most of my boyfriends first and have asked out a lot of guys, including very cute ones! So I don't think it's some sort of disorder.
When I go out in safer parts of town, I have no problem talking to guys, so I think it's just a bad habit I've gotten into in this area, since I'm usually running errands alone, while creepy guys leer at me or ask me out at the car wash. It's just the culture in this area I think. But I appreciate your concern.