Liking the concept of your dual
Which of you like the concept of your specific dual?
I'm not asking if you think you've liked, or are going to like, every individual of your dual's type -- of course the answer is no.
I am asking if, when reading about your supposed dual type - either descriptions or what people here write about them - your reaction is like "wow I have the best of all duals!" or "that is my dual? Ugh" or something in between.
I tend to think that my type has the best dual possible, like, "how can anyone not want ISFj as a dual?" but I wonder how others see it.
Does anyone wish another type were their duals, or does anyone decide that duality can't work because the duals suck?
Re: Liking your dual as a concept?
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Originally Posted by Expat
I tend to think that my type has the best dual possible, like, "how can anyone not want ISFj as a dual?" but I wonder how others see it.
it seems like it would be hard to not have that attitude.
i'm not sure how i would respond to this question. i have never really been in any long-standing dual relationship so it's difficult for me to experientially evaluate duality.
Re: Liking your dual as a concept?
I admit the first time I read the dual description, I didn't get it. I couldn't imagine how I would get along with an ISTP.
An ENTP I knew, after reading the ISFP description, said it sounded like a boring type.
I think maybe at first a lot of people think their duals are boring. And also, because your dual is so different from you, it can take a while to warm up to that.
Now i really like ISTPs. Thinking back, I always did like that quiet mysterious thing, before I knew about personality stuff.
I do think they're the best dual and I know a lot of other types like them too. I mean come on, James Dean, firefighters, probably cowboys, pilots, etc... :D
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Originally Posted by Expat
Which of you like the concept of your specific dual?
I'm not asking if you think you've liked, or are going to like, every individual of your dual's type -- of course the answer is no.
I am asking if, when reading about your supposed dual type - either descriptions or what people here write about them - your reaction is like "wow I have the best of all duals!" or "that is my dual? Ugh" or something in between.
I tend to think that my type has the best dual possible, like, "how can anyone not want ISFj as a dual?" but I wonder how others see it.
Does anyone wish another type were their duals, or does anyone decide that duality can't work because the duals suck?
Re: Liking your dual as a concept?
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Originally Posted by niffweed17
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Originally Posted by Expat
I tend to think that my type has the best dual possible, like, "how can anyone not want ISFj as a dual?" but I wonder how others see it.
it seems like it would be hard to not have that attitude.
Yes.
Unless you have mistyped yourself.
I find the concept slightly more attractive than the actual individuals. The ethical subtypes are often too anal-retentive, and the sensing subtypes too ditzy.
Re: Liking your dual as a concept?
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Originally Posted by Expat
I am asking if, when reading about your supposed dual type - either descriptions or what people here write about them - your reaction is like "wow I have the best of all duals!" or "that is my dual? Ugh" or something in between.
I tend to think that my type has the best dual possible, like, "how can anyone not want ISFj as a dual?" but I wonder how others see it.
I tend to think, "How can anyone, especially those poor unsocial and people-hating INTps, have ESFp as their dual?"
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Originally Posted by jas05
I tend to think, "How can anyone, especially those poor unsocial and people-hating INTps, have ESFp as their dual?"
haha, i maybe clumsy but i'm not unsocial or people hating. i just don't like it when groups are too large.
but if i remember correctly INTP's are commonly described as nice companions... probably because of their easygoingness.
Re: Liking your dual as a concept?
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Originally Posted by Expat
"that is my dual? Ugh"
That's what I thought when I thought I was ENTp. :lol: The duality description didn't sound at all attractive to me, either.
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Originally Posted by Jarno
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Originally Posted by jas05
I tend to think, "How can anyone, especially those poor unsocial and people-hating INTps, have ESFp as their dual?"
haha, i maybe clumsy but i'm not unsocial or people hating. i just don't like it when groups are too large.
but if i remember correctly INTP's are commonly described as nice companions... probably because of their easygoingness.
Well I used a bit extreme wording but I had this kind of an IM conversation with an INTp lately:
Me:
There was a lot of people here. And now they left.
INTp:
And you think it is a bad thing that they left?
Me:
Yes.
INTp:
I just don't understand those social animals...
Of course there was a bit of irony there, but it maybe describes something about INTps anyhow. :) And an ENFp I know described another INTp (at least according to MBTI test) she knows as "the most unsocial person she knows". But that's just an ENFp viewpoint. And the other INTp is one of her closest friends.