Giving/receiving compliments: Socionics point of view
I got interested whether socionics type or Quadra has any correlation to giving and receiving compliments.
I wrote this in another thread where giving compliments were talked about.
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Originally Posted by XoX
(thread was about calling women cute or sexy etc)
I don't know. I never say that kind of stuff to anyone really. Compliments are not really my line of business. I do practice them a little online though so perhaps one day I can actually say one IRL too, hah. Anyways I like women who don't need to be called either but who know what/which they are without someone telling them that :o
Edit: Oh I actually also like women who directly "fish" for compliments sort of. It makes it easier to give them. I'm clueless if someone is expecting compliments but doesn't explicitly fish for them.
What I mean is that if a woman/girl buys a new clothes and expects some spontaneous compliment I never give it. If they "fish" for it like saying: "Does this new clothing look good on me?" or "Isn't this new outfit cute/sexy?" then I can easily "agree" with them. I dislike it and feel weird if they just stand there as if they wait for a compliment but don't explicitly say it. Even if I kind of know they wait for it I never really give it unless they ask for it as the whole situation of having to implicitly be aware of how to behave and expected to behave in a certain way is annoying.
How do you approach compliments? How do you see giving and receiving them relates to socionics?
Re: Giving/receiving compliments: Socionics point of view
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Originally Posted by XoX
I got interested whether socionics type or Quadra has any correlation to giving and receiving compliments.
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How do you approach compliments? How do you see giving and receiving them relates to socionics?
I do not see a correlation between compliments and socionics.
imo, verbal compliments falls under "words of affirmation" which is one of the 5 Love Languages.
(the other four being quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch)
those who use words of affirmation (in this case verbal compliments) as a primary love language will in turn respond better to receiving verbal compliments
there are however other ways of giving compliments than verbal
* quality time could include asking someone who's ability you admire to assist you with something they are good at, spending time talking with the person about this admirable trait of theirs (this would include questioning them about it, asking them to describe what they do, etc ); for example, spending time talking with a teacher about her job
* giving them a gift that will assist them with their work that you admire about them, or a gift that they use or could use to enhance that aspect of them that you admire; for example, you love the perfumes a woman regularly uses, so you purchase her a perfume that is similar to the kind she uses
* doing a service for the person so that they can continue working on something you admire (example, you admire a painter's work, you offer to take care of some mundane need of theirs so that they can continue working on a painting)
* physical touch can include any number of things, one example would be stroking their cheek if you happen to admire their facial bone structure or the smoothness of their skin
A more useful question would be "what kinds of things do you like to do when you admire something about someone?"
"which are you more comfortable doing?"
"which would you prefer someone else do to/for you?"