Originally Posted by
aixelsyd
Also saying that that is a good way to put it. I think all types feel that way about all duals. When I'm around SEEs, I suddenly see how I become valuable to them and I naturally put off my pretenses and fall into my most natural way of thinking and being. The only bad side is that I often stop making an effort to be nice and show my snarky self for all it's worth, though not without an inner sense of giddiness that they are being so receptive and appreciative to me because of it. And I also sometimes imagine what it's like for a SEE without their dual . I think they are so amazing but then think if they feel as mundane as I do when I don't have a dual around who needs someone like me to be me.
But having my dual take such a large interest in me and be just so curious about who I am and trying to get closer and closer to me is an amazing feeling and I struggle hard to be as emotionally cool as possible since I don't like to express my real feelings if I possibly can. I, of course, find them enthralling, most times, as well, and it feels really great being so well liked by someone who is so interesting, from my viewpoint, at least.
But many, many times I have fallen into my critical mode where I bluntly point out how idiotic something is (in the way ILIs can sometimes) and I've had SEEs who never talked to me before turn to me, grin widely, and tell me that they loved me. That sort of stuff really appeals to a lot of them (since they usually know I'm making an observation which is not personally related to anyone specifically or meant to cut anyone down since I don't play that way unless someone's being an ass and deserves to be put in their place).
I always become protective of my dual, as well. All too often I come to their defense if I don't agree how someone is approaching them, even if someone is not being mean but is missing their point or not noticing what the person (dual) needs at that moment. It really surprises me when I act that way because I'm usually so taciturn and easy-going. But being around my dual and getting close to them awakens my most admirable qualities as well as well as my greatest strengths. It also awakens a very self-sacrificing part of me to where I believe I would put myself through a lot if it meant sparing them from some misfortune. I mean, it has to do with the individual, too, but only within the realm of duality have I experienced this.
I admit that duality seemed over-rated to me when I originally typed myself as IEI, but now I understand what it really amounts to...and it's a lot. I was skeptical for a long time, but when you live it several times, you understand that this goes beyond a mere theory and it describes some very real and very life-changing feelings and experiences. Some of the people who have made the most deepest marks on me I later realized where SEEs though it took me a while to see it, but when I did, it all clicked.
