Benefit Relations between Victim and Aggressor types
Generally the Victim/Aggressor game is quite stimulating to both partners. In the case of this particular relation, such is not the case. The beneficiary does not possess the capability to allure and entice the benefactor, especially compared to the benefactor's dual or activity partner. The games and tests involved in Ni/Se interactions don't have as much of an appeal to one's benefactor because that's just the nature of those relations. Benefactors may find the games and tests annoying, may find them boring, etc. I think relations of benefit can be particularly frustrating for Ni type beneficiaries because their benefactors aren't all that responsive to their ploys. It can feel like a rejection.
Re: Victim/Aggressor relations of benefit
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Originally Posted by Joy
Generally the Victim/Aggressor game is quite stimulating to both partners. In the case of this particular relation, such is not the case. The beneficiary does not possess the capability to allure and entice the benefactor, especially compared to the benefactor's dual or activity partner. The games and tests involved in Ni/Se interactions don't have as much of an appeal to one's benefactor because that's just the nature of those relations. Benefactors may find the games and tests annoying, may find them boring, etc. I think relations of benefit can be particularly frustrating for Ni type beneficiaries because their benefactors aren't all that responsive to their ploys. It can feel like a rejection.
I don't see what this has to do with specifically being Ni/Se. Sounds like all relations of benefit to me.
Re: Victim/Aggressor relations of benefit
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Originally Posted by Joy
Generally the Victim/Aggressor game is quite stimulating to both partners. In the case of this particular relation, such is not the case. The beneficiary does not possess the capability to allure and entice the benefactor, especially compared to the benefactor's dual or activity partner. The games and tests involved in Ni/Se interactions don't have as much of an appeal to one's benefactor because that's just the nature of those relations. Benefactors may find the games and tests annoying, may find them boring, etc. I think relations of benefit can be particularly frustrating for Ni type beneficiaries because their benefactors aren't all that responsive to their ploys. It can feel like a rejection.
...as explained later in the thread