Hidden Agenda and Attraction to Things/Objects/People
This is something I have noticed in myself and others several times and led to me seeing a connection between one's hidden agenda and the different things they are attracted to.
I first noticed this in my INFJ friend. My friend loves beautiful things. Especially women. He is obsessed with beautiful women and refuses to give anyone else a chance. He is the deepest guy ever but in that one area he is incredibly shallow, which he admits. His standards are so high that it is ridiculous. He also loves other beautiful objects such as clothes/cars/etc. He is looking for a sort of "perfect beauty" so to speak. He also loves food that is very fresh, and will throw away perfectly good food on the basis that it doesn't look fresh. I have noticed these tendencies in many other INFJs as well.
When I made the connection between my friends love of beauty and his :Si: hidden agenda I decided to examine whether there was a similar connection in myself. Sure enough, I realized that I am very attracted to :Se:-ish objects - objects that convey power. I LOVE things like power business suits/big black sedans/impressive titles/weapons/etc.
My ISTJ friend loves :Ni: things - stuff that is going to last a long time. I see this in ISFJs as well, they want durability over all else.
I had more examples but I just woke up and I can't remember them right now. This is just a theory, but I am interested in seeing if people on the forum see the same kind of attraction in themselves and others.
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Originally Posted by pezzonovante
I first noticed this in my INFJ friend. My friend loves beautiful things. Especially women. He is obsessed with beautiful women and refuses to give anyone else a chance. He is the deepest guy ever but in that one area he is incredibly shallow, which he admits. His standards are so high that it is ridiculous. He also loves other beautiful objects such as clothes/cars/etc. He is looking for a sort of "perfect beauty" so to speak. He also loves food that is very fresh, and will throw away perfectly good food on the basis that it doesn't look fresh. I have noticed these tendencies in many other INFJs as well.
I can totally relate to that, and it's kind of embarassing 'cos I'm not practising what I preach. :oops: I admit that my standards of beauty are ridiculously high, but I feel shortchanged if I settle for something less.
As for objects that convey power, I can be attracted to power business suits (especially guys wearing them), black sedans, impressive titles and all that stuff, but it is mainly because they look sleek and beautiful and thus make me feel good as a result. :lol:
I don't really concentrate too much on :Ni: things. As long as something looks good, I don't care about durability and comfort. Like I wouldn't mind spending a lot of money on a pair of beautiful shoes even if they hurt like hell. :lol:
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Sure enough, I realized that I am very attracted to :Se:-ish objects - objects that convey power. I LOVE things like power business suits/big black sedans/impressive titles/weapons/etc.
That's the main point where you and I are different, as already obvious when you first posted and it might mean different subtypes (with you closer to Ni).
I have an impressive-sounding (to some people) title that's even in my passport. However, when work colleagues use it, especially when we first meet, I am quick to ask them to drop it (even if the country's social rules demand use of family names). I dislike business suits although I wear one very often. A fast car to me is a means to get quickly from A to B.
My attraction to :Se: -- I guess it's about real power, not the trappings of it.
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Sure enough, I realized that I am very attracted to :Se:-ish objects - objects that convey power. I LOVE things like power business suits/big black sedans/impressive titles/weapons/etc.
That's the main point where you and I are different, as already obvious when you first posted and it might mean different subtypes (with you closer to Ni).
I have an impressive-sounding (to some people) title that's even in my passport. However, when work colleagues use it, especially when we first meet, I am quick to ask them to drop it (even if the country's social rules demand use of family names). I dislike business suits although I wear one very often. A fast car to me is a means to get quickly from A to B.
My attraction to :Se: -- I guess it's about real power, not the trappings of it.
Whats the title? Lord Expat? Lol. I think having a title like that would be awesome...but I can see why you want people to drop it. It would definitely be cumbersome at times and could make people feel uncomfortable.
I see that your :Se: hidden agenda is influenced by :Te:, thus you desire efficient power. Mine is more towards :Ni: and :Fe:, thus I want power that will lead to future benefits and image . Makes perfect sense.
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Whats the title? Lord Expat? Lol. I think having a title like that would be awesome...but I can see why you want people to drop it. It would definitely be cumbersome at times and could make people feel uncomfortable.
I see that your :Se: hidden agenda is influenced by :Te:, thus you desire efficient power. Mine is more towards :Ni: and :Fe:, thus I want power that will lead to future benefits and image . Makes perfect sense.
My title is Dr.-Ing., or Doktor Ingenieur, Doctor of Engineering -- same as PhD. Especially in Germany and Austria, many people think it's not polite not to address you by your title, so there I'm often called "Herr Doktor [Expat]".
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so there I'm often called "Herr Doktor [Expat]" .
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no offense intended :wink:
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