ESFps disliking being told what to do and given orders
well... it friggin pisses me off, i hate it when people tell me what to do or give me orders, and usually i'll just ignore them, unless im in a situation where i have to listen (work for example), but even then i will usually try to find the loophole in the order and screw the person over.
now dont get me wrong, im not a bad employee, or anything like that, i just dont like orders, i always get my work done, the thing that bothers me is when people give me specific orders that are outside of what i usually have to do. my basic standpoint on the whole thing is that if u want me to do something, come ask me, dont just tell me... i mean seriously, it doesnt take that much more effort for someone to ask instead of tell, it just feels like the person giving the orders doesnt care about u, just wants to push some shit off on u
anyone else like this out there? ive heard hints at stuff like this in delta before so i figured might as well start a thread, plus theres like, no threads w/ enfp in the title for way to long now, so i needed to push one in :-P
Re: enfp-------> i hate orders
When someone places a demand or expectation on me, I will actually do the opposite. (which really is just another way of controlling me..if they actually figured out how to do it) Even small demands/expectations, like washing the dishes or doing the laundry. If it's expected that I will do it, I flat out won't do it, letting it pile up and up and up until the expector finally digs in to do it themself...and then i'll jump in and help them, hehehe.
Unfortunately, this also works when I myself place a demand or expectation upon myself. Like, if I tell myself I really have to get such and such paperwork done, then I get all pissy and find all sorts of reasons NOT to do it. I've been working on psyching myself out...like, telling myself I can do it tomorrow..and then jumping in to do it before I've time to think about it.
I also usually won't commit to anything if asked. As long as I'm not committed, I'm likely to help in some way I feel I am capable of helping. I absolutely will not....and may get aggressive...if I'm being demanded/expected to do something that is not a natural aspect of myself....like, Girl Scout Troop Leader expecting me to play the perfect mother host to a bunch of bratty girls.