What is your type and makes you want to open up with someone?
What makes you want to ignore or avoid someone?
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What is your type and makes you want to open up with someone?
What makes you want to ignore or avoid someone?
Not too shallow, two-faced or shit talky about insignificant things. Not too mindlessly competitive (obviously arguing on a forum if it’s an entertaining discussion is different), although completely sterile and nice isn’t compelling to me either on the other hand; it just means more repression and insanity.
Not too many loose or ethically questionable comments or behaviors. No shitty attitude towards me or towards others without a non-retarded reason.
... Would make me want to open up, maybe.
Sincerity, innocence, "helplessness", kindness, selflessness, mystery, positivity, openness, nonjudgmental, cheerful, happy.
What makes me wanna ignore them is basically the opposite of those things.
Magnets in our pockets.
I'm inclined to easily open up to people who seem to be confident in areas of life where I lack confidence without being cocky about it. Also it's often easier for me to open up to people who share a similar experience as me (lgbt, black, child of immigrant, etc...)
I have a hard time opening up to people that I find to be rude, dishonest or lacking empathy.
When it comes to straight up attraction I'm not sure I know honestly... But I often end up being attracted to people who are nice to me without being weird, pushy or annoying. Also I like hot guys.
Repels:
- Planning, rules, strict morality, everything to do with anal retentiveness
- People who try to manipulate, guard, and force a conversation as if great conversations can't occur naturally. Smiling retardedly at awkwardness is included.
- Submissiveness and tenderness and traditional femininity
- Conservative and without a brain
Attracts
- insanity
One thing that I never thought would repel me, stereotypically as a guy also, is feeling sorry for yourself or just being unappealingly self deprecating. Truly feeling bad is one thing and for some reason that draws me in, but moping about and whining, I thought it would put me into some hero mode or something, but a girl acted that way around me and man and at that moment it was decided that she was just a friend. I lost all attraction like I had a hole in my pocket, and she was decent looking too. I always been told girls are the ones that like confidence in guys but I guess I like confidence too.
What makes me open up is if someone is genuine, I get a whiff of that and it's over.
Attracts: Confidence, integrity, Reliability, industriousness, Humility
Repels: Dishonesty, arrogance, egotism
Hard to answer this one confidently, but I'd say receiving and giving vulnerability and honesty.
Things that especially appeal to me in a person include: intelligence, strength, conviction, passion, creativity, sensitivity, and kindness.
Things that I find outright unappealing in a person: lack of expressiveness, cruelty, childishness, and intolerance.
attracts me/makes me open up:Quote:
Originally Posted by CowboyBibimbap
bring friendly and social,
striking up conversations with me and not giving up when I don't reply or don't use emojis...,
not taking things too serious and personally,
sharing one of my boring yet productive hobbies,
sensor jokes :hello:,
bringing me into the moment,
caring more than me about things,
mutability, ability to grow and change
proving me wrong, surprising me
repels me:
shrinking flowers,
dependency,
lack of confidence,
blaming external circumstances,
overly touchy and suffocating,
meddling with my private life,
raising your voice/screaming at me,
attempting to control me,
hatred - towards anything really, I don't identify with this emotion at all
impulsive decisions and emotions
Repels: someone who wants to murder me. Yeah that must be one. Someone who puts too much on fate instead of rigorous testing. Someone whose sense of humor is close to zero.
As per being open? I'm pretty much an open book to everyone even if I'm bit hard to understand.
this but unironically
https://pics.me.me/Facebook-822b12.png
Lack of integrity is a big problem for me, inconsistency, important lies, and primates violent and incapable of another form of expression than hate and their selves. Lack of respect.
I like a certain level of open mindedness, calmness, someone you can talk to, joke with, yell at, and them at me, without it becoming the end of the world. An offbeat sense of humor is defo a +, it doesn't have to be like mine. A bit of adventure. Live.
Attraction in general? I like interesting people.
Sexual attraction? I’d say I’m attracted to many different types, and it’s hard to pin down specific features. The only ones I can think of and not being very overweight, and having visible breasts (I don’t really care about size as long as a woman isn’t completely flat-chested). I’m also attracted to a sense of casualness — not feeling self conscious.
@xXdedXx, since you mentioned not being attracted to “whores”, I would say that if anything I’m particularly attracted to promiscuity if it’s based in self-confidence.
You want someone who has a harem? Asking for a friend.Quote:
Originally Posted by FreelancePoliceman
Are you asking if I want to be part of a harem? Hm, traditionally the harem-master is supposed to provide for the concubines. If this is the arrangement, then sure, depending of course on a few other circumstances. XDQuote:
Originally Posted by sbbds
Lol
Hail to those who want a slave.I read all your posts, cocksucker. Come on.
Attracts: High levels of ethics and integrity, kind, forgiving, honest but not harsh, patient, loyal, knows what they believe, takes a stance on right and wrong, mean what they say, practice what they preach, etc.
Repels: Low levels of ethics and integrity, rude, vindictive, harsh and hostile, two faced, liars, egoistic, argumentative, loud and obnoxious, always neutral, always negative, 'my way or the highway's attitudes, etc.
Interesting, all the "repels" part is basically all Beta traits.Quote:
Originally Posted by LemurianLo
I usually get along with Beta introverts well but the extroverts I do in fact find difficult to be around a lot of the time. That feeling is usually mutual with EIEs but scarcely so with SLE's for some reason.Quote:
Originally Posted by Aaron Something
Same. For some reason, the Betas I stand the most are LSI's. But the others make my teeth hurt. I have an LSI and IEI in my friends group, and I have more issues with the IEI, he tends to just come from behind me and punch me or something, so once I just turned around and pimp-slapped him and he whined. XDQuote:
Originally Posted by LemurianLo
repel: bullies and hatemongers, and people who are over-the-top friendly or jolly
attract: intelligence - people who offer unique insight (certainly not like that of a fox or a quoter).....:content:
a.k.a. I/O
That doesnt sound like ESE to me? Couod be wrong :p sorry to bother u about it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Rebelondeck
Attracted to
kind
warm & expressive
a sense of awe
flirtatious energy, sexual energy
affectionate
discreet
insightful about life
does their own research
puts in the work required to have an informed opinion
willing to admit when they can't do / don't know / don't understand something yet
willing to learn & try new things outside their comfort zone
willing to get back up or be helped back up if they fall
willing to face their problems and try to work on them
flexible, able to be spontaneous
willing to get dirty
quiet but willing to speak out when things are really wrong
Repelled by
Other than no-brainers like not being an asshole, using people, actual bullies:
no "off" switch
busybody, micromanager, nosy
tiresome troll, childishly provocative, gossip
interprets everything personally, self-absorbed,
projects motivations & agendas onto others
thinks in stereotypes and is oblivious to it
hyper-rational, data-dependent, or utopian idealist to the point of stupidity
parrot, fixed ideology, reactionary, contrarian
full of shit. constantly lying. white lies. bluffs. delusions of grandeur. lying just to hear the sound of their own voice
lies of omission, plausible deniability, playing "by the book" while abusing the spirit of it
takes the moral high ground but won't speak out, won't openly back up a person who does
words say "deep convictions & values", actions say "let someone else handle it" "cover-your-ass"
silent majority
I'm assuming that you're referring to intelligence, which really has nothing to do with type. Type usually indicates how intelligence may be applied and I've met smart and stupid of every type - also insecure and elitists of every type......:content:Quote:
Originally Posted by Number 9 large
a.k.a. I/O
Seeking unique insight kind of "intelligence" and disliking "over the top friendly jolly" ppl sounds more like the opposite to ESE. It seems you are more attracted to alpha NT traits than to your dual's.Quote:
Originally Posted by Rebelondeck
Repels: controlling, vindictive, materialistic, short sighted
Attracts: harmonious, laid-back, cheerful, selfless, playful
You seem to be implying that ESE can never be insightful or intelligent, or have a somewhat sombre nature; I disagree.Quote:
Originally Posted by Tommy
If my history is any indication, I've been attracted to more ESIs than any other type - and yes, like all other types, ESI can also be insightful and intelligent......:content:
a.k.a. I/O
I never said that. You said unique insight, and sensors are not typically "unique". Don't put words in my mouth.Quote:
Originally Posted by Rebelondeck
Unique: being the only existing one of its type or, more generally, unusual, or special in some way.
Then, mb you are not attracted to unique insight, rather, just insight or insight related to physical world or interpersonal relations etc. That's mb not even unique, but mb you perceive it as "unique" due seeing just your own perspective as "normalcy" in such areas (subjective 1D perception in other words). Then, over the top friendly and jolly doesn't match much ESE.Quote:
If my history is any indication, I've been attracted to more ESIs than any other type - and yes, like all other types, ESI can also be insightful and intelligent......:content:
a.k.a. I/O
Anyway, I really don't care to what traits you feel attracted to. Was just clarifying N9 socionics comment. Or mb you were just twiddling. :)
I'm tempted to type a person I know as ESE and I wouldn't say over top friendly jolly applies. ESEs can be chronic worriers; if they sense a negative consequence coming their way any trace of friendliness can just vanish and they go business mode. They worry and have push-through personalities, so they are good at planning ahead and with money, generally. The type of person that does well in their profession or that has secretly amassed a small fortune over the years.Quote:
Originally Posted by Tommy
that sounds ESI to me. My mom is ESE and a good friend of mine too. My ESE mom is actually not good to save money and none of them both find easy to make it either. :/ They both are friendly and cheerful. They don't have business mode. They have friendly mode, unfriendly mode, which are not related to business. They both are not good at planning ahead. They are responsible workers, though.Quote:
Originally Posted by Rusal
I know ESI who's good at saving and making money. I know SEE who's good for making money, but not saving. Both seem in need for advice in what and how to invest (ie. how to make their money work for them instead of the opposite).
I’ll check for SEE but I don’t see ESI. A close relative of this ESE (¿?) is an ESI and the differences are striking. ESE’s miniscandals over literally everything due to constant fear can extend to money-matters and this shields them from unwise decisions. There’s more of the ESE profile as a whole that fits the person than SEE.Quote:
Originally Posted by Tommy
Attract:
Friendliness, easy-going, cheerfulness, joviality, adaptability, modesty, in touch with nature, intelligence, creativity
Repel:
Dishonesty, frequent aggressive moods, pushiness, bragging, being overly materialistic
Open up how? My asshole or my heart???
Lust wise (maybe love too), I am into people who are naturally very ethical but don't flaunt it and NEVER condescend others with it (that itself is a huge turn off) But they are still a good person when push comes to shove, more naturally tho. It's kind of very refreshing, sorta the opposite you feel while watching TV. There is no 'platitudes' about it. And they understand the difference between a fantasy and actually doing something really well. And this is a core to the person I mean. I am repulsed by people who pretend to be 'good' for something career-ish but beneath that veil they are actually pretty cruel and heartless. Te polr maybe but I am pretty sensitive to that. =D
Things that attract me:
- People that can relate to me and my mindset
- People that can totally understand me
- People that know what they're doing/talking about
- Realism, Objectivity, and Neutrality
- Factual information
- Argumentation and Debating
- Close-mindedness
- People proving others wrong
Things that repel me:
- People being fake to makes themselves look good
- People believing they're always right
- People mocking and laughing at me for no reason
- People believing that life has meaning
- Posting memes and other "funny" stuff
- Happiness, Excitement, Optimism, and Touchiness
- People brainwashed by society
- Delusional people
Strong but vulnerable
Doesn't take themself so seriously
Values health and good lifestyle
Values quality
Confident, charismatic
Sharp
Not overly materialistic
Doesn't take BS
Will call me out on things. don't just.. let me.. do stupid things because you want to be nice..
Considers my suggestions
Honesty, probably even bluntness
wants to be their best self
Integrity
Must be genuine. i can't stand people who aren't.
Skeptical of things, critical thinker
Presence
people who stand up for themselves and what they believe in
Smooth driver
banter
Usually I can tell if I will like someone just from the way they move in their environment
Attractive:
Intelligent
Not overly formulaic in interaction and in the development of a relationship (it feels oppresive and it makes me depressed)
Not easily swayed by easy, go-to truths. Can think critcally.
As a result, they are fair and gentle in their judgements of others.
Confident enough to act independently
Approachable
At least somewhat reliable.
Absence of a sadistic streak (e.g.: they are kind to all animals)
Optional: tallish.
Repelling:
Too many ‘feeler’ vibes
Close-mindedness
Isoelectric encephalogram
Domineering and sadistic. I’m not into zoophilia, thanks.
https://images3.memedroid.com/images...27e7ca0c9.jpegQuote:
Originally Posted by CowboyBibimbap
Attract:
Funny
Kindness & smiles without expecting anything back
Practical knowledge & skills
Calls my bullshit but with tact and style
Genuine interest in other people
Puts interests of their relatives on the same level as theirs
Equanimity & reliableness
Nonviolent communication
Takes care of themselves & grounded
Vulnerability & able to talk about their feelings
Sense of adventure & independent
Not afraid to "push back" when I'm too pushy
Repel:
Too principled
Too emotional
Doesn't know how and when to relax
Invasive physical contact
Know-it-alls
No sense of reciprocity, takes but never gives
Aloofness, standoffishness, unresponsiveness, too many boundaries
Dependency on others to solve their problems
Talking behind my back to make themselves feel better
Ambivalence(hot and cold, not knowing what one wants)
Aggressiveness & Anger issues
Victim mentality
People pleasers
Controlling and power hungry people
Impulsive and impatient people; good things come to those who wait
Dishonesty and liars
People who agress those who don't conform to their ideologies
People who can't connect the dots or become paranoid
1. Doesn't have a long list of what attracts and repels them
Does this attract you or repel you????? Or neither because it’s just self-referential??? D33pQuote:
Originally Posted by squirtle69
Repels: -people who like alphas
-alphas
It attracts meQuote:
Originally Posted by sbbds
Same thing can attract and repel me depending on time and its form.
I have a mental list, one thing that attracts me the most is when the person stops whatever he's doing and stares right at me seriously when I'm speaking. Makes me want to talk more. They are so rare though.
The opposite of that repels me, but most people fortunately are in the middle.
I also get attracted to people with contained energy, not moving a lot but when they move it's purposeful in a sense. People who are fidgety repel me a lot.
People who are into one-on-one conversations are also attractive to me. On a normal basis you really have to talk in groups, they would talk to you then you both would make other people join the convo or join others. I just tolerate it but it exhausts me a lot so it's nice when someone actively goes out their way to talk to you even we could have easily joined the people around.
People who have deep feelings about things AND like sharing it. Devoted people.
It repels me a lot when people make sexual jokes.
The form of time?Quote:
Originally Posted by myresearch
I meant the form of the behavior/characteristic/trait that attracted me at first, then can change its form in the time and transform into something that repels me or vice versa.Quote:
Originally Posted by Tommy
For example, I can be attracted to someone who is socially harmonious, adaptable to other people. However, after some time, the same person may not show where s/he stands or defend or fight for important things even s/he has nothing to lose besides social harmony, then glacier wind blows in my heart.
This is like me at my best & at my worst lol. 🤯❤Quote:
Originally Posted by Ryan
I wanna reply to this thread, but putting vibes to words is a process, I'll think about it later
I think that's everyone's best and worstQuote:
Originally Posted by ashlesha
Kindness.
There was a half-blind girl who was painfully shy, awkward, mousy, had a weird walk, ugly clothes, disorganized, messy hair and was very clumsy and kind of terrible at everything she did, frankly. But something about her made her shine far more than most people... patient, gentle, soft, tactful. In fact, I kept wondering why she didn’t have many friends, because she definitely had something most people didn’t, it was like finding gold. A beautiful soul. I probably sound deluded.
For me, the most prominently attractive quality is a sort of transparent frankness that evokes trust, but I don't think my own recognition of the je ne sais quoi that I speak of would be universal or anything. Mb when I'm attracted to someone I project it idk lol :rolleyes:
But it's a specific feeling... literal obliviousness (uh mb autism-ish or sth), not aw shucks politician or owning the libs type frank honesty
I feel like I'm talking bs and making no sense, but I'm lazy here u go
Hard to know unless I interact with them. I don’t think people are easy to get to know by just surface.
Attractive: someone who is kind, humorous, approachable, easy-going, emotion balance and non-judgmentalQuote:
What is your type and makes you want to open up with someone?
What makes you want to ignore or avoid someone?
Repel: pretentious, fake niceness (for appearance), self-absorbed, worrier, and nitpicking