Originally Posted by
BandD
I'm pretty good at that myself, but it makes me feel uncomfortable if people IRL clearly feel sorry for me too much. I don't value the opposite either, blatant cruelty and obviously preying on my weaknesses - but I like it the most if a person is kind of more or less blissfully unaware/obtuse of my emotional state to begin with lol (like how a lot of ILEs and SLEs are?) Or they are just kind of too cool for it either way.
I probably prefer written sympathy over real life sympathy actually, as it has sort of this dignified distance when done properly.
RL Sympathy feels annoying and condescending to me usually, like all the people who pretended to care when my dad was dying of cancer, surrounding our family like vultures so they could self-righteously feel like they were 'good people' on the cover of O magazine. It was pretty pathetic, but that is humanity for you lol. Very few people are there when I need them the most, and everybody is always around picking at the scab when I want them to just fuck off.
*blinks* Sorry. That was probably way too bitter, emo and bitchy but I am a male IEI after all. =p