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golden, I don't disagree that conflictors and duals differ somewhat in the competence of their use of the functions. I haven't entirely figured this out yet.
As an example, I have unconscious dual-seeking. I married an SLI with 4D Si, partly because she always looked terrific and because the furnishings in her apartment were impeccable. ESI's, of course, also have 4D Si, but they use it mostly for health concerns to keep their duals from working themselves to death. The artistic abilities I see demonstrated by ESI's aren't exactly like those of SEI's. Both can dress very well and both can make a space clean and comfortable, but there are some subtle differences which are hard to quantify but easy for me to see. I'd say that SEI's are more about making a place superficially attractive and ESI's are more from the heart. Bad description, I know, but that's my subjective feeling about it.
As for how the unvalued elements come through in conflict interactions, I can say that I get a glimmer of a sense that the SEI deeply cares about people, but when I discussed this with her this morning and said so, she just gave me this squinty toothy smile which implied "Don't even go there.", so I assume she treats expressions of Fi caring as a joke. Which works out very well for the ILE's, but terribly for LIE's.