Enneagram 3s and 6s: Why Don't They Get Along?
Where these two types meet they seem destined to come into conflict, and badly. I find that interesting as Enneagram theory would suggest that you move towards the type you integrate into (3 goes to 6). However, this has never been the case in my experience. The fundamental dynamic between the two types seems to move a bit like this:
Conflict begins when the 3 says or does something which the 6 happens to observe, feels concerned about and/or violated by in some way. The 6s paranoid tendencies lead them to confront the 3 and get personal in a way which surprises and annoys the latter. The 3 will dismiss the 6 as irrational, obnoxious and hypocritical. At this point, the 6 will then play the victim, claim they are being persecuted and encourage others to pile on and shame the 3 into social conformity. From the 6s perspective, the 3 has transgressed one of their boundaries and they are only trying to prevent further harm. However, 3s are very unlikely to accept this as a legitimate reason to belittle and embarrass somebody else.
I have observed this recurring pattern both online and offline. Discuss.