How does anxiety related to your dominant instinct manifest itself for you, and how do you alleviate it?
I think this paragraph in this article is very true:
"Concerns of the 'blindspot' instinct counterweight those of dominant one. When one is feeling anxious, depressed, or frustrated due to inability to satisfy the needs of the primary instinct, temporarily devoting one's attention and efforts to the third instinct may alleviate anxiety and compulsive behaviors prompted by fixation on the primary instinct."
But I also noticed that the anxiety/fixation is not the same for everyone with the same primary instinct. For example, my so/sp friend compulsively stresses out about his career success, while I (so/sx) compulsively stress out about finding a good romantic partner (this sounds more sx-first, but trust me, I stress out about it in an so/sx way--like are people thinking that I'm a loser for not having a boyfriend?).
The quoted paragraph rings very true for us, as I feel better when I clean up my room and he feels better when he has an intimate conversation with a friend. Similarly, when one of my sx/sp friends was having trouble finding a friend/boyfriend with whom to merge, she found solace in her church community and became a lot more mentally healthy.
So, what is your instinctual stacking, and what is the fear that echoes in your mind--the one that you cannot dismiss, that makes other people think you're silly for worrying about so much? Does engaging in your last instinct help alleviate the anxiety from fixating on that fear? What are specific ways in which you engage in your last instinct to distract yourself?