Fi Seeking in LSEs (ESTjs)
I've been meaning to write this for some time now.
I used to watch how LSE would apply principles of proper behavior in society. When I went out with an LSE once to a chicken and waffle place I listened to him talk specifically about what he observed. With regards to how other people behaved he said and did almost nothing. When I would eat something with my fingers he would make off hand remarks like "haven't you attacked those bones enough" or "why do you continue to pick at that chicken?" I would look around me and see if others ate chicken like me and I would tell the LSE, other people are eating the chicken same way yet your focus on how I'm not doing something properly is only directed at me. He would say "yes, because you're the only one who is here with me." I stopped to think about this from my Fi point of view. It was harsh but my Fi with Ne understood this and it glossed over me but the reason why I said he only noticed me in this behavior is because I later came to find out was because of Fi that he couldn't do. Fi observes the trends of society. The trend of eating chicken was with one's hands. He being LSE was raised to eat chicken with his fork. He said "that's not how I was raised." Then it got me thinking "oh course he would not notice the trends of society because he's preprogramed to eat with a fork so all new information is not processing." I understood what Fi does then.
Edit: To add he got very uncomfortable and tense while I was continually eating the chicken with my fingers and this tenseness only raised my awareness of it and stress level to correct my behavior but first I had to reason with him about what thing he was not observing
Because I'm so keen about human interactions I observe what is appropriate by other people. The expression of elation from eating a delicious meal while having eyes glazed over would be seen completely normal by all members of that immediate atmosphere except the LSE who operates by his learned behavior. He then when on to say "don't make those looks with your eyes like you are high or something." I said I'm just expressing how good this was and everyone here would agree or understand what that expression means. He had to stop and look at others to see if they noticed me. I told him "it's completely normal for this society and everyone understand what this look means, but you don't because you expect me to behave in a way that's already interpreted as 'proper' or 'fitting' without understanding this society." He looked at me with astonishment and looked at others again. I said "see no one else minds because that is normal to them." I feel like i help LSE look outside themselves.
Edit: again any behavior that he found odd or resistance to change my behavior in public made him extremely tense to the point of wanting to reprimand me or hurry up and leave the establishment.