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Why thank you hun, you're a beauty yourself.
About their relationship - I'll tell you all about it.
My parents relationship together was both extremely successful and an extreme failure, all at the same time. By success and failure, I am talking extremes on both spectrums.
They were EXTREMELY successful economically. My parents came to the country that I was born in pretty much penniless. They were forced out of their home country due to chaos and war. Everything back home was destroyed, their only hope was to move to another country to start a better life.
My Mother did not know a word of English. Luckily, my father was an academic and was ranked top in his English classes in his home country.
They both worked very high labour, low paid jobs. Working every single day of the week, multiple jobs, the two were both money making machines. They both were very entrepreneurial, business minded. (Both my Mother and Father come from affluent entrepreneurial families). My Mother picked up English very quickly, which gave her an advantage in this country. She educated herself, did a lot of business planning, budgeting and research.
Both parents are spectacularly good with money, budgeting, and planning. Before I go on and bore you about my parent's multiple business ventures.. Together, their undying hard work, great budgeting skills made them a power couple. ENTj and ESTj, both being so ambitious, strong, skilled, and hard working, were a great business team.
Now for the extreme failure.. Both would also let their business ventures seep into their love lives. Constant arguing, bickering, and fighting at home is all I can really recall from the two of them.. Not to directly relate this to socionics and their type, because there are a lot of outside factors for their dysfunctional relationship.. Such as mental illness caused from stress and overwork, exhaustion, etc. So I guess you could say, what made them so monetarily successful, in itself destroyed the relationship.
Both the ENTj and ESTj generally in Socionics are stereotyped as leaders and entrepreneurs. With two being in a relationship, there could only be ONE leader. My mother is the farthest thing from the stereotypical "submissive" Asian woman. She is much more a leader and powerful than a lot of Men that I've known. There was a power struggle between the two and that gnawed away at the relationship.
My Mother ended up having an affair, and my Father was devastated. Of course, they are divorced.
My Mother is holding a grudge against my Father, she's still bitter. She does not want to engage in another relationship with a man. My Father remarried and is still working 7 days a week. Lol.
Sorry, this was quite long! I hope it gave you a good insight on the type of dynamic that I've experienced in my life having ESTj and ENTj parents.
