How does an ENFj deal with ESTp's on-off behavior
This thread was inspired by aubzatuck’s post about SLE’s inexplicable avoidant behavior.
I have an somewhat new SLE in-law who lives really far away. On a few rare occasions when I have been nearby I have invited her to lunch or drinks. She always turns me down with no excuses made. Just no. Her sisters who are EII and SEI usually join me whenever I invite them and we have a good time. At family gatherings the SLE is very friendly to me and full of fun.
I have been told that although this particular SLE likes to party, she absolutely will not do anything she doesn’t want to do. That attitude seems to be in keeping with SLE descriptions.
The reason I am curious is that if I am EIE, she is my activity partner. I realize many variables are at play in developing relationships. But after about the 4th time, I’m thinking how rude and screw you. Fi ignoring or not, rejection hurts, dang it! How does the mentor deal with the on again off again Fe of the commander? We don’t have to have a lame relationship. Or do we?