Originally Posted by
Maritsa
Hi applejacks :) thank you for noticing my connection with family, relations and friends.
When my father had open heart surgery and was on bed rest for a month, I stayed home and did everything, cleaning, cooking, watching over him, wrapping bandages, taking care of him..same with my sister when she had a baby...I slept at the hospital with her and took care of the baby as she slept. When the baby was born, all my mom had to do was to give me her silent look, which is to say "honey, will you stay and help your sister?" no words are needed with me, I'm game. I take up responsibility like others take cake. with absolute pleasure.
Walls? Well, one such example is a friend LSE who is extremely financially irresponsible. From what I know of him and others, he's borrowed and owes others quite a bit of money. He asked me for money a few days ago and I didn't have any on me (but probably would have given it to him had I) and instead I offered to buy him lunch on my credit, which he accepted. I may have developed ways around people and put up walls only when I try to help the person stabilize and see that they really don't care about their future. I may ignore the person as a "wall" because I find it very uncomfortable to address them directly about things (hence my passive aggressive nature. Also it gets harder for me to say no the closer the person is to me in my relational proximity). My other wall is isolation from the individual who is using me. These walls are of psychological distance ("please get the message and stop asking me about this topic which I find highly disturbing" is my common response). I really want to help in most cases and it's been at my expense so often...my mother can vouch for that. She's ILI. Funny enough my mom's Fi activation works more clearly than mine lol. She will get upset when I help a friend but when my sister needs more help than anyone she's fine with it; my help is broader, less pragmatic then hers maybe because she's a Te type. Oh, I forget, that's because she's Fi negative (aka gamma quadrant).
What type are you?