Quasi-Identical Relations: Stories and Experiences
I been starting to think that quasi-identical relationships are the best. Both people will certainly feel awkward, but with open 2 way communication and acting constructively upon that communication, you will become a better person. This is because you are subconsiously expected to play the role of your conflicting partner.
For example, if you are ENTj, to keep your ENTp partner happy, you have to act like an ISFp. If you are ENTp, to keep your ENTj partner happy, you have to act like an ISFj.
The important elements in the relationship would be the same as for any other relation - for example communication and patience.
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Re: Quasi-identical relations are the best relationships?
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Originally Posted by gaypog
I been starting to think that quasi-identical relationships are the best. Both people will certainly feel awkward, but with open 2 way communication and acting constructively upon that communication, you will become a better person. This is because you are subconsiously expected to play the role of your conflicting partner.
For example, if you are ENTj, to keep your ENTp partner happy, you have to act like an ISFp. If you are ENTp, to keep your ENTj partner happy, you have to act like an ISFj.
The important elements in the relationship would be the same as for any other relation - for example communication and patience.
DISCUSS
Acting like your conflict partners weakens your psyche, while acting like you dual strengthens it. Acting like your conflict partner really is not the brightest of ideas for obvious reasons.
Re: Quasi-identical relations are the best relationships?
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Originally Posted by gaypog
I been starting to think that quasi-identical relationships are the best. Both people will certainly feel awkward, but with open 2 way communication and acting constructively upon that communication, you will become a better person. This is because you are subconsiously expected to play the role of your conflicting partner.
For example, if you are ENTj, to keep your ENTp partner happy, you have to act like an ISFp. If you are ENTp, to keep your ENTj partner happy, you have to act like an ISFj.
The important elements in the relationship would be the same as for any other relation - for example communication and patience.
DISCUSS
You're wrong, when it comes to my world.
You think that I, acting like an ESFp, for an female INTp, would work out well? No chance.
Look, I have learned from my conflicts - and I agree that you can learn things. But when it comes to relationships, I WOULD NOT advise this sort of thinking at all. People don't know how to manage relationships as it is, and having to have some sort of pre-set role like that wouldn't help
.......that is, speaking in terms how how most "americans" view relationships.
The bottom line is, people don't know what they are doing. I think for the avarage joe, Socionics or at least MBTI would be good for relationships. But as for my personal situation (in reagards to your positd theroy) and socionics...... no, not at all.
I would spend too much time having to try to be something I'm not to please someone who I am not initially attracted to.
However, personal development and progress should not stop or be forgotten about - I do like that aspect of the situation. I do not think that could be best done with a QI relationship, though, at least not in my opinion. Unless it was an INTp dedicated to the ideal in the same way I was, I don't see that working out.
So perhaps the bottom line is:
I like your essence, the concept you were going for, in terms of personal development and progress, but I do not think that is a good way to go about it. At least for myself I would not be inclined to excell in that situation. Perhaps it is different for E types.
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Both people will certainly feel awkward, but with open 2 way communication and acting constructively upon that communication, you will become a better person.
Hell, that's important for any relationship, even a dual relationship.
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This is because you are subconsiously expected to play the role of your conflicting partner.
One thing I've realized is that no matter how much you try to improve yourself or be completely capable, etc, your still human by default, and as humans there is a 'need', somewhat for others. Our strength is in society, etc.
Also, I would much rather have someone's strengths compliment my weaknesses naturally. I would be able to have more confidence in my partner if they were inherently a certain way, as opposed to, for instance, an INTp trying to act like an ESFj. I could still make adjustments in how I deal with the situation, but I still don't like the idea.
Also, as per duality, I feel confident in terms of being with an ESFj about logic and such, where as with an INTp, I would feel more rivaled. And as before, I'd be worried about someone dealing with the ESF parts of the world, because they certainly aren't my inherent inclinations. Also, me trying to emulate my conflict is not really super healthy for my well being. I've tried it.
But I will close by reiterating that I think personal development and progress - growth- is very important. I do not think QI relationships are the best,necessarily, for such. Growth is very important, though. I am not sure, really, if duality is the best place for such or not, but I do believe that proper growth requires the right conditions. And as QI relationships go, at least in my world, those are not optimal conditions for my growth.
Experiences with Quasi-Identical Relations
I may have asked this question before, but I'm having difficulty understanding why Socionics claims quasi-identical relations are so bad. I love INFjs - some of my closest friends have been INFjs, my therapist is an INFj, and I've admired many INFjs from afar. Granted, I get along with some better than others, but overall I've enjoyed the time I've spent with them. Even though we have different perspectives and disagree every now and then, I find that we often end up helping, enriching, and even complementing each other - it feels like mirror relations more than anything else (and no, I'm not ENFp, and I've clarified that the friends I'm talking about are INFjs). So :8*, I'm confused. Does anyone else here like his/her quasi-identical and not understand what all the fuss is about? Am I missing something?
Experiences with quasi-identical relations
Please post your experiences here.
personally I believe i know one Te INTp and she is very pleasant, helpful (I like her=she seems very pleasant) but won't really speak unless spoken to. We can chit chat. She may be an ENTj or ISTp though. I don't think ISTp (seems very unaware of her body) and seems very Ixxp.