I don't usually smile. People tell me :"smile, do it".
Have you ever been told sth like this?
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I don't usually smile. People tell me :"smile, do it".
Have you ever been told sth like this?
Yes. By people who know me and random strangers alike. As if walking around with a smile glued to my face would make the world a better place. (Well, maybe it would, but it's still way too fake to even contemplate.)
I assume that people are not happy 24 hours a day
Although there is a motto in Spanish: "smile when things are not working" or sth like that
I smile a lot nowadays, but I was always frowning as a kid, and got told to smile more.
I don't think I do it much, but sometimes I try to smile more in conversations and the such to make me seem more friendly. I've never been told to smile, however. Except when I'm in a music performance (at school), and the conductor might mention to us to smile.
some people are just really disrespectful... they seem to feel they have rights to other people's facial muscles.
I got told to smile more as a kid, by this one teacher I hated.
Perhaps growing up I could have been more...extroverted, bubbly and happy. Less moody, introverted and withdrawn. But trying to control what other people do and tell them to do things that they don't want to do isn't the way to go about it.
I used to smile a lot more when I was a kid. Not as much anymore, but I'll try to remember to do it more often.
:p <--- I guess it's working already.
I used to get this, I hated it, it would make me nervous, I would begin to think I need to be smiling for some reason.
Certain situations I'd feel weird smiling in though, like if I was driving by a school zone and kids where walking around and I was driving by slowly with a huge grin on my face, people may get the wrong idea -- sometimes being stoic and emotionless has its advantages.
However I remember one time I was at chipotle picking up a burrito and I was filling up my drink, and I reached over to throw away the wraper my straw was in, and there was this little kid sitting on the counter with his dad talking on the cellphone, I reached over to throw away my straw and the kid pulled out a plastic knife and pointed it at me, at first it kind of freaked me out, like he was a little chucky or something, but I just smiled at the kid and laughed, and he smiled back and put the knife down, then I threw away my straw wrapper and got the hell out of there, the dad saw the kid point the knife at me and then told his son as I was walking out to not do that to people. So smiling does have its advantages.
Im told to relax, usually.
aissie, smile because it makes my day brighter. besides, you'll look prettier when you smile.
I smiled once and there weren't any negative consequences.
yea i got told this a lot as a kid but then everyone else eventually became progressively less happy while I stayed pretty much the same so now I get told not to smile. Ahh the joys of being average.
"People are just trying to make themselves happy Sam, they don't need all your poor me victim sad stories. Nobody wants to hear that shit, fuck off."
"But I thought you were manly and strong enough to take it? If a little victimhood and sensitivity and the accurate re-creation of reality knocks you down, perhaps you're the weak one?"
"Why don't you tell an inspiring story"
"Art is pain. Inspiration has to include a lot of darkness....this is what people really go through, not your disnified version. In real life there's not all those bright lights that causes vision problems. You're not inspiring anybody, you're causing nearsightedness."
"Fuck off you middle-class Daria like fag. I will exploit whoever I want for money. I am going to molest you now because you see through to what I am."
(I often have the following exchanges with alot of ppl in real life. Family members included.) =D
You guys should smile more. :D
40 volunteers were given Botox to the forehead. Before and after the treatment, they were asked to read out statements from a sheet. Those statements were ranging from happy, sad to angry.
After the treatment it took longer for the Botox testees to read the ones that were sad. What I read that the study indicated, it seemed that they weren't more happy cos they smiled, but less sad cos they had harder time to frown.
I think that they might have more difficulties when dealing with their inner shit. Frown, do it.
i'm usuallY reminded bY emploYers to smile, because when i'm concentrating on remembering/working i tend to forget to look happY.
While I genuinely believe that smiling makes you feel better, telling someone to do it is annoying. If you're trying to cheer someone up, figure out why they're down, commiserate, reassure, then crack a joke or something.
the people who say this to me are almost always men over 50. I don't know, just a thought. maybe it used to be more common. but yeah I feel like they're telling me to fake happiness in order to be more attractive and its unsettling.
I sometimes work in the drive-thru in McDonald's. On the wall, there is a poster that tells us some suggestions for what we are supposed to say and how we are supposed to act when we talk to a customer. It says 'And smile, smile, smile!' or something to that effect. Whenever I greet a customer, I say hello to them in a polite voice without a smile. I might sometimes nod. But I don't smile.
I smile at approaching strangers in public if, for some reason, I feel anxiety. I smile at them if I am making eye contact with them. I smile at them if I don't know them, and never will know them - I live in a town where a large number of the residents are temporary. I smile at them if I'm not bonding with them. I smile at them if they look like they're scared of me for my not smiling.
For me a smile is a fake armor, a protection against showing myself. It's also a submissiveness gesture to show that I am not threatening the other person. To approach someone and make eye contact, without smiling, either means that I'm on drugs (I did it while I was on antidepressants) or it means that I am showing my strength and also my vulnerability. It takes more courage to refrain from smiling.
All the time. My SEI friend smiles all the time, but it's not my natural MO.
Read a book
Learn a foreign language
Stop gaining weight
THESE ARE REAL PIECES OF ADVICE