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Well I was having this conversation with my sister the other week and I was saying to her that sometimes when you meet a girl and she shows that she's really interested in you without holding it back then that becomes the way you understand a girl shows you that she likes you. I mean she's bridged the gap and that creates a certain sense of certainty but unfortunately the difficulty is no two women are exactly the same. So what develops is a certain preference for how a girl shows she likes you or that she's interested.
Yeah, that sounds good.
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example: she asks a friend for your phone number. When that girl did that there was no way I could miss the sign. She was doing that for me. However that also raises the bar or expectations. She put herself on the line. I have a harder time seeing that a girl likes me who is not as bold or daring.
Yeah, that would definitely put pressure on you to do well with her since she's the one who took the initiative. However, I can see how some guys wouldn't do well under that kind of pressure.
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example: she pushes away guys who try to hit on her. So basically trust level is through the roof. I can trust this girl without having to second guess myself. There's definitely a sense of maturity and respect. Of course I do the same for her as she does for me.
I think a lot of women, especially intelligent/smart ones, find that being hit on is unattractive. At least the way most guys hit on them. Probably because the way a lot of guys hit on women is really cheesy and kind of hilarious to witness. A smart/intelligent woman would probably feel like her intelligence is being insulted and thus push away guys who hit on them unless you do it right, which is different for each woman.
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example: no drama when it comes to sex. Admittedly, I was with an older women who had plenty of experience so she understood why she was there and what we were going to do. Not only did I enjoy it but I was really impressed with how comfortable she made me feel.
Good for you, an older woman can be a great teacher. :thumbsup:
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Here's some common bad examples:
example: She dates other guys to make you jealous. Seeing other people is fine but it's embarrasing when she's using other guys to make someone jealous. Slightly pathetic. That of course creates doubt and mistrust. Even when she stops this behaviour that lingering feeling of doubt remains. Plus it usually ends in failure. What I mean to say jeasouly usually makes the woman less attractive. She is a source of pain instead of happiness.
I really hate it when someone does that, plus you're right. It never works out well when she tries to use jealousy to her advantage. Women. :rolleyes: lol
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example: She has other people speak for her because she does not have the nerve herself. I can understand that but I do not find that attractive using a middle man to get your point of view across. She will not talk to you but instead her friend will and though we can not exactly say it we're talking about her. It comes across as manipulative on her part.
I think it goes both ways. If a girl is really shy, then it's understandable if she has a friend talk to you for her. If she's not shy, then it comes off as being manipulative since she could've just as easily spoken to you herself.
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example: She's out of touch with her sexual nature. Physically there is no difference but pyschologically, the experience is ruined. Intially she will act morally righteous but then when you finally do the deed she enjoys it as much as you do. However because you had to beg or plead to sleep together, there remains a bitter feeling. Basically she's not open to experience.
Well I haven't dated anyone like that, but there's not much you can do about that except try to get them to be more in touch with their physical side.
Although being bitter over anything should send up red flags that the relationship is not going well.