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That's true, and I spend the majority of time alone or with family so that's not going to help matters. Haha.
Out of curiosity, I wonder what the best place would be to 'meet' either type would be. I'm mostly activity/club dependent for example, but I'd theorize both IEE and EII are both more socially orientated, so just knowing/socialising with a lot of people would be your best shot at meeting those types. Kind of obvious really, :D.
As you make your list, consider adding FiNe into helping professions, like the friendly yet still professional nurses, and places that care for the needy. Also teachers in organizations like boy scouts and tutorship programs at schools. My FiNe mother spent most of her life as a nurse of some kind. Helping people feel more comfortable through ailing health, reading to them, joking with them through use of irony, helping them still feel worthwhile through their frustrations and depressions over their ill health. She also worked in a home for developmentally challenged adults, taking care of the meds and making sure that the clients got the medical help they needed. She also spent time teaching boyscout classes so that the boys could get some of their badges, particularly when the boys' parents didn't have time to help them. She's also done tutoring for kids, and music lessons for children. And later in life, she's been a secret santa for a number of very poor families. But her work isn't limited to christmas time. And she covers needed items as well as clothes, books, and toys for the kids. She began this after becoming a member of some forum that does this kind of stuff.
NeFi I have met have been through a number of odd ways. But usually they are in a more catalyst role. Whether it's as a pyschological therapist of some kind, or a friendly fitness coach, or helping needy people make the legal and welfare connections they need, or even trying to start something like local sustainability meetings. They aren't organizers, and they do better when they are helping a client for an hour or so and the client is expected to do the rest of the work. They prefer passing on ideas and information, and possible network connections...without having to do the actual work of getting it all to work. They might also be in a teaching type of environment...related to the passing on of ideas and information. Maybe you could look for activist programs near you, find one or two you feel comfortable supporting, and go to some of their meetings? They'll likely be one of the ones that is enthusiastic and bringing up ideas or possible actions the group can take...but aren't the ones making the decisions nor organizing it...or if are...then are constantly apologizing for having missed some important details. :oops:
Good luck. I hope you get some valuable ideas in this thread.
I've never been in a romantic relationship with an SLI although I've been close more than once.
When I was 21 there was this teacher at the university, a mechanical engineer. She was I think at least 8 years older than me and such a character... she was close to being a male, she used to party and drink to get drunk, etc. We really didn't know each other but she had spotted me from meetings with common friends/acquaintances and quickly developed a crush on me. Thing is, she was visibly excited but never really did much to let me know about it. Once, she just took a class with me just to have an opportunity to sit and stare at me from close. My time getting close was rather brief, it consisted of a time in which I found her walking on the yard and walked with her up to a shoe repair shop to pick up a pair. I do remember myself joking about the shoes being "coquette". It seems to have had a profound impact on her because a few days later she showed up at the office with a cake saying it was her birthday. I think it was just an excuse to get close, probably some advice from her SEE friend. I did not continue any further because I met my current SEI girlfriend there and she became horribly jealous of this woman and I cut all communication. Last I heard from her was from her SEE friend. She said she planned to invite me to have a lunch but it never happened.
There is currently an SLI that I'm pretty sure likes me by the kind of questions she asks me and the way she looks at me, etc. But it's far more complicated. She's married with one kid and I have a girlfriend now, etc. We're quasi-friends at the moment.
From my own experiences and from what others say, I don't think IEE-SLI duality becomes solid overnight...
Hmm yeah that sounds like my behavior lol. But idk, I've rarely if ever came right out and said " I want to date you, I like you" because that seems way too forward and I'd be afraid it'd turn some men off. Is that what most people do tho? I am like..crippled by relationships. I just don't get them. I had this guy I've been seeing say he wants to get serious but I find myself not wanting him to see how much I suck at them so I don't know if it will go anywhere because I don't want to disappoint him. I find myself wanting to be a fly on the wall around other couples just so I could take note on what the hell you're supposed to do.
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Discussion relevant posts got lumped with the derailment thread that belong back here.
Post 12 by stringstrider
http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin...l=1#post963853
Post 42 by agarina http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin...l=1#post963914
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http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin...l=1#post963951
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http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin...l=1#post963957
Post 58 by stringstrider
http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin...l=1#post963962
Don't worry about other couples because you won't be like them anyways, no matter how hard you force or try it. And that's OK, because the human experience is unique!
Here's the beauty of relationships- Just be yourself, simply in the presence of another human being. Get to know them, and if you're comfortable, let them get to know you. Time and trust will tell.
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thanks for the heads up, the posts have been moved now
Is it unethical to be attracted to MILFs?
Any cougars here?
I want to be one when I am 50. I think I would make a terrific cougar.
Hmm... according to wikipedia greater than 8 would do.
Only one question remains.
Nope.
I'm going to be a 60 year old slut. Bring it on.