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Originally Posted by
Maritsa33
I just have the tendency to think of things beyond their surface, what they are and what they could be. I'm not short sighted and I tend to analyze things in search for answers, that aren't often there. How we respond to our environment tends to be a way of coping, like a survival mechanism, or a way of dealing with stress. I deal with the stress of being alive by overanalyzing matters in search for answers, while someone else may choose to stick to answers that are already provided for them, because they don't have to do much thinking and analyzing. Because, on one hand it it dogmatic, but on another it allows the person to not stress due to thinking or searching for answers; it think that it's scary to be alive and to have conscious awareness of our existence and because we have this I believe that people have developed certain coping mechanism. I am very much convinced that this is type related.
It is type-related alright, but the question is: is what you are doing really healthy? There is nothing wrong with being helpful, it can be a good quality for which Leading Fi types are known. But if you are starting to fantasize people having problems and being in need of help, when they aren't, that's not very healthy.
How does the following sound to you:
To live is to serve; to love is to give. These are axioms for individuals who have the Self-Sacrificing personality style. The way they see it, their needs can wait until others' are well-served. Knowing that they have given of themselves, they feel comfortable and at peace, secure with their place in the scheme of things. At its best and most noble, this is the selfless, magnanimous personality style of which saints and good citizens are made.
- Generosity. Individuals with the Self-Sacrificing personality style will give you the shirts off their backs if you need them. They do not wait to be asked.
- Service. Their "prime directive" is to be helpful to others. Out of deference to others, they are noncompetitive and unambitious, comfortable coming second, even last.
- Consideration. Self-Sacrificing people are always considerate in their dealings with others. They are ethical, honest, and trustworthy.
- Acceptance. They are nonjudgmental, tolerant of others' foibles, and never harshly reproving. They'll stick with you through thick and thin.
- Humility. They are neither boastful nor proud, and they're uncomfortable being fussed over. Self-Sacrificing men and women do not like being the center of attention; they are uneasy in the limelight.
- Endurance. They are long-suffering. They prefer to shoulder their own burdens in life. They have much patience and a high tolerance for discomfort.
- Artlessness. Self-Sacrificing individuals are rather naive and innocent. They are unaware of the often deep impact they make on other people's lives, and they tend never to suspect deviousness or underhanded motives in the people to whom they give so much of themselves.