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Originally Posted by
Ryene Astraelis
It would, though I would try to act like it didn't. I like to be acknowledged for doing something "good", be it socially, morally, or otherwise. I also like to be acknowledged for doing the "correct" thing, fwiw.
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What's your type? I thought you were infj?
Tentatively.
Ah okay, dang it. I thought I was on the path to self enlightenment until you had to bust that out.
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Originally Posted by
laghlagh
EII - i dont usually notice or care if somebody thanks me if i open a door or something...im too selfcentered and inattentive lol. i only care if it stands out to me as something quite different, like getting scoffed at as they walk through which happened once and i was like wtf lol. but mostly, no.
You feel too self-centered and inattentive when you're doing something good? Sounds like an oxymoron, heh. I think a lot of EIIs think like that though, which is good. And hah, your illustration is exactly how I picture EIIs I know - inattentive, innocent, and just going about their day doing whats right. ;)
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Originally Posted by
Absurd
People say thank you, smile and wave when I do that. Would I be irritated ? I don't know, although it depends on my day, I can just say "just frigging drive you worthless bimbo, I don't have all night".
Haha dude, you're so blunt, so LSE. Hey, whatever works. :)
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Originally Posted by squark
...However, I make sure I acknowledge people who do stuff like that for me. I at least nod in the person's direction and say "thanks" for holding a door and such. A few days ago, as I was leaving a convenience store a guy leaving in front of me had cleared the door and was on his way when he noticed me coming out, and he leapt several feet back to grab hold of the door just to hold it for me. Of course I made sure I looked him right in the eye, smiled and said thank you, so he knew it didn't go unnoticed.
Oh, without a doubt I'm the same way. I'm so anal about doing everything you just described. I make sure they get the message.
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edit: GAH, still not clear enough. It's like, you know how in some cities, when you stop at a stoplight here comes some dude who starts washing your windshield then expects you to pay for it? You never asked him to do it, so why should you pay? That's the same thing with expecting acknowledgement or appreciation for something that nobody asked you to do in the first place, like holding a door for them.
Yeah, that stuff is just annoying. Though if there were topless girls doing the car wash I wouldn't mind, I'd just drive off after I get my view. But I feel like that situation's a little different from mine because they're asking for money, whereas all I'm asking for is common courtesty, a little love, haha. I don't want to say be fake to people, but I feel like these small gestures may make a difference in the long run in bettering the world. But who am I to say that saying thanks takes less effort than paying money, huh?
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...On the other hand, say a friend begs you to help them move and you're right in the middle of studying for finals or something. They know this, and you finally agree to help for a couple hours. If after helping them they don't even bother to say thanks or anything, THEN you have some reason to be upset. Their asking implies a sort of exchange. Not quite the right word, but I don't know a better one. There was no agreement that they actually give you something (unless you said, yeah I'll help for a six-pack, and they agreed to that) but a thank-you at least has been earned since they asked for your help. Otherwise they're acting as though they were entitled to that help. Does that make sense? Contrast that with: You have some free time and feel like doing something, and WANT to help them move, then it's silly to expect anything for it."
"..Voluntary help that I offer and they ask nothing more from me? No thanks needed. I did it because I wanted to. Letting cars in and holding doors almost always fall into this category for me. If I don't want to let a car in, I won't. I'll pull up so close to the car in front of me that a bicycle couldn't fit in sideways. And I purposely let a door slam right in a woman's face once because I went to hold it for her and then she ordered me to keep it open in a really bitchy tone. I heard her cursing but didn't look back to see if she was hurt when I walked away. Basically, I get annoyed when anyone thinks they're entitled to my help or acts like I'm there to serve them. They have another thing coming if they think that. Otherwise, I'm glad to help. I enjoy it.
These are all good illustrations. Yeah I agree that for me it depends on the situation at hand:
I'm driving on the main highway and I see that there is huge traffic ahead of me. I also see that there are cars merging in to my right. To be fair, I'm going to have to let some cars in, because otherwise I'll be an asshole of society. I let one person in, then nobody else until I get to the next car that needs to get in, but never, ever two cars in a row. If a second car tries to cut me off after seeing I let one car in already, I'll get pissed. Why? Because I'm trying to be fair, but if somebody is trying to take advantage of that. I'll be more than happy to let many as many cars as I can in, just don't think I'm a pushover though.