Conflictors basically dont give a shit about each others core perception and activities. For example an infp doesn't give a shit about keeping his house really neat and tidy and always doing chores and dishes on a super schedule. If someone was to criticize an infp on the dishes he probably wouldn't give a shit unless it was impeding something in his core elements.
Estjs do. They will seem OCD about keeping things running smoothly (ej always moving) like keeping a kitchen or house permanently clean. An infp would do the minimum here to get by and only make a big effort if he was to have a party of something or something was in dire need (ip reacting and adapting to situation)Estjs tend not to give a shit about things in the future that are bad for them, like not eating bad food that over time will kill them and make them fat, getting drunk (as long as its pleasurable!), getting tatooos(not in a painful place though), not wearing sunscreen (unless it was really evident they were gonna get burnt), eating endangered species(sushi that also contains lots of mercury) etc. (warning base ignoring types, in this case entp also somewhat ignore this info, but easily evident they don't care about administratively running a physical operation) Basic bad pattern avoidance that will drive an infp crazy over time because they will not accept any complex Ni. They would rather avoid immediate pain and gain immediate pleasure. Also doesn't excel at power struggles, Se comes in making people do shit and bitching at them to clean for example, although they do understand these things and can talk about and deal briefly, but don't really care as part of there core.
Thats where quasi-identity comes into play, they can surprise you with the demo Se but then quickly drop it and go back to administrative tasks.
Basically this creates a trainwreck shitstorm for each person and neither respects the other or can coorperate fully beyond very basic tasks.
I will get to duals when I have confirmed relations with one.

