In my opinion these are not opposing statements. All humans are concerned, to one degree or another, with how one's behaviour affects others' opinions, because all humans have Fi somewhere in their psyche.
Coulter, for example, seems to care far less about how her behaviour affects others' opinions, because Fi is her Vulnerable function, and she has learned to disregard it and pretend not to care. O'Reilly cares more about it, because it's an Ego function (or at least a valued function, in the case that he's LIE).
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I don't quite understand what you're trying to say. For the record, here's how I describe Fe and Fi:
Fe is internal dynamics of objects. This means it is an internal thing sometimes expressed externally. Fe is the ever-shifting mood: excitement and passion and emotion. Fe Ego types are good at sensing and influencing their own moods and the moods of others. Being dynamic, Fe moods can shift and change, but this does not mean Fe is shallow: deep and powerful feelings of passion, love, anger, hope, etc., are all Fe. At its strongest, Fe can be an all-consuming fire that overwhelms everything else.
Fi is internal statics of fields. Fi is all about the connections between people: like and dislike, good relatioships and bad relationships. Fi can be friendship, loyalty, trust, dislike, mistrust, hatred. Fi Ego types are good at determining the status of relationships: which people are to be trusted and which are not, etc. Unlike Fe, Fi is a very stable thing, solid and seldom changing. At its strongest, Fi is an unbreakable bond between people that will resolutely weather all storms and anything that may be thrown at it, or an unswerving loathing that will give no quarter to the enemy.