Dunno if you're just joking around :shock: . I love gifts - not that I'm just high maintenance or something, I also like offering them, sometimes spontaneously.
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i really like gifts when they are spontaneous and customized and i really like giving them under the same circumstances.
(not when people are "supposed" to and not generic things like jewelry)
i was interested in the book the guy i'm seeing was reading so when he finished he gave it to me. i really liked the thoughtfulness.
I'd think acts of service would be more related to Fi/Te, tbh. Te leading types, especially, will remember if you did something useful on their behalf out of conscientiousness, and Fi leading types tend to be really touched by that sort of thing.
I know some ILIs who really cherish gift giving, not so much for the price but the thought, if it's something they really like, and if the giver is someone they care about (Fi), so so much for that being primarily Ne/Si, Fe/Ti. I personally prefer no gifts unless it's useful or something I want and saves me the trouble of buying it (A decent headset, a video game, or something, but too much of that is no good). I don't feel gifts are necessarily a good indicator of how close I am to someone.
I place heavy emphasis on words of affirmation, physical touch, and quality time, though, but without it being backed up by acts of service, I can suspect the person may be more of a flake.
Actually, in the Love Languages book, the Physical Touch category is not supposed to be based off of sexual physical contact. It's under the assumption that most people like this, and if it were based off of sexual contact, Physical Touch would be the Love Language of like, 98% of males. Also, the Love Languages is applicable to all of your relationships, not just romantic. Think about it, there could be a guy very into being intimate with his wife and that expresses love to her in this way, but then he never even hugs his kids. That is still not his Love Language, just because he shows love to his wife in that way. Touch is still not the way he primarily expresses or receives love.
So, in that case, PDA is more on the money with the Physical Touch thing.
I'm still not seeing pda for the sake of showing off as a "physical touch" thing. Maybe if you incidentally don't mind if people see it.
My love language is this: http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=fa4_1400205143
Mine are quality time and physical touch.
Now I'm wondering, to all of you whose love language is quality time, who you end up with? I mean, do you avoid someone with certain professions like in military or mining or airlines industry where they're always away most of the time? I would imagine their partners are someone with receiving gifts as the first love language. Gift is my last.
I don't even like LDR, I'd rather just let him go and move on.