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I don't understand how you guys can hate on SLIs. SLIs are caring and lovable and reliable and refreshingly simple. They like life simple, comfortable and fun. Sure they need their alone time and they can be hard to read, but if you trust that they're going to be honest with you (which they prefer to do if you don't seem like you'll go off the deep end if they are) then they're actually really straightforward. If anything I think they mostly get curmudgeonly when you sit there over-complicating things because they want things to be simple and they want you to be happy.
Also, I think Jessica said it bang on. Hilariously enough, my SLI and I are both like that which made the beginning of our relationship actually work. No definitions, no clinging, no dating. We just spent time together, which gradually turned into more time together, which eased into physical time together, until it all came together into a relationship. We don't even have an anniversary date because neither of us knows when our relationship actually started, it just happened on it's own. Purely organic. So stop analyzing things and trying to pigeon-hole your SLIs and they'll stop being so claustrophobic. I would even go as far as to say that if you give SLIs a chance to warm up to you they stick like velcro, they're just stubborn and need to do it for themselves. Afterwards, they're cuddlebears
Hilarious side-note: you should see what happens when you inject SLIs with some Ne. They light up like Christmas, it's funny.
Yes, I think this is why semi-dual relationships for them start up so easily. It's extremely difficult (let's just go ahead and say impossible) for me to be unconscious of my level of attraction for someone. I tried that, and it failed beyond miserably. And semi-duals have logical thinking in common, which makes it easier to relate as well. Much like it's easier initially for me to relate to SEIs... I honestly think there's only one way that I'll end up with an SLI in that fashion: I'll end up dating someone I'm not physically attracted to. That's the only way they'll be completely off my radar enough for them to actually like me.