Originally Posted by
Eliza Thomason
Oh - do you want me to delete mine, too? No problem if you do. (Since its a conversation you are not having).
Those drawbacks - yes, those are definite drawbacks, but then also not mentioned is what I have seen time and time again, women who dedicate all of themselves whole-heartedly in a long-term relationship, okay with living together, because the guy doesn't want to commit, but it looks like commitment to her since they are intimate, and to her, that means she's "all in" so it must to him, but the guy has never wanted to talk marriage and then it seems fine for him, in his mind, since a commitment has not been made, some years down the line to end it since he never committed. And the girl always is the one to be surprised and devastated. At least in all the instances I am thinking of. My heart aches even as I write this for those I have seen this happen to, even though, every time, I think, "You were so foolish to pretend it was marriage or about to become that when it wasn't." Then I am mad at our culture, which encourages this, and the women loses every time.