There's this like soft personable easiness inherent in all INFjs I've seen that maybe just looks nice to me, because I think you look noice.
But I think while it detracts from hotness it expands on cuteness.
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Amen to that, I couldn't have said it better myself. I can really enjoy the atmosphere of parties and other gatherings though, but I still virtually always focus on one or two people at a time.
But I don't relate to the avoiding going out that other INFjs here talk about. I usually consider a day without socialising/going out to do something else wasted. I'm super bad at calling people though, but I hardly ever turn down any invitations without an imperative reason.
EII are terrible at parties. No matter what's the mood of the party, Agarina will find herself in some secluded section of the party.
Nice straw man + false dilemma combination.
The fact that I tend to socialise more openly in Fi/Te gatherings doesn't mean I prefer any Te/Fi person over any Ti/Fe person, or that I cannot like the company of Ti/Fe people. Also, if you haven't noticed, I hardly ever spend time with the people you listed outside of your parties. Sometimes, yes, but not that often and even then we're usually talking about one-on-one meetings and not big social gatherings. With V.K this has never happened though and I'm too lazy to check, but I'm not sure if I even have his number. A.B is clearly an exception in the sense that I spend lots of time with her whenever I possibly can, but she hasn't been to your parties since what, early 2011?
EDIT: In case this is somehow unclear, I do enjoy your parties and like the people there. I wouldn't come if I didn't. The fact that I act differently in different environments doesn't mean I necessarily dislike one of them. They're just different.
I've had create parties with EIIs because they don't put up false fronts.
Depend of the type of party.
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My gf is extraordinarely indecisive in some matters, like hesitate so much when she need to order food at mc donald ^^
Im more like, ok, let's take that, go with it.
For long term decision, I don't see me as particularly indecisive, it's just I ponder variables and outcomes.
For personnal goal/desire, yeah I doubt often and am not sure.
WTH is this thread all about? You guys gonna depreciate an INFj? Really? Ugh, you have nothing better to do. Ok, I have to have an initiative taking person in my life who gets me to go out. It's ok, I'm TIRED and out of ENERGY all the time, I work like a snow sled pulling dog who is pulling the sled ALL the time, not just for an hour but all the time. I don't rest, I can't relax, my mind NEVER stops working; YES I'm prone to high levels of stress, mental and physical, mostly mental, but the mind burns energy at 9xs the rate of the body, so guess what I'm doing all the time...eating. So bring over some food, as I'm probably out of energy, get me to eat it, and then give me some warm clothes and comfortable shoes to wear and then I will go out and have fun at whatever you want me to. Promise.
Or, better yet, I can go out fine after being made love to.
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one for paaapa
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one for the faaamily
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the problem with INFjs is that their standards and expectations are themselves ideals so the person lives in a way that by definition invites disappointment and condemnation. this is amplified by the fact that the ideals in question are questionable and likely to be met with justified resistance.
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It's not really that the problem is "disappointment and condemnation" because of not meeting the ideal (even if it's a part of the global picture, many things exist for avoiding excessive self condemnation : self transformation, taking new view of self, etc), the problem is too that many things originate from a "wrong" ideal (ideal defined in the past by a frustration). With time, it become harder to retrace the origin of "bad ideal" wich are the contrary of the conscience and originating from a need of revenge or frustration or other wrong stuff, leading to an impression of permanent lying + being an egoistical asshole.
Oops, I just rephrased what you said.
I think the more healthy INFj are those whose ideal keep always a foot on their early childhood, when they are the more "natural" and not overcharged by frustration and other stuff. When their perception is "pure" if you want.
INFj :
- indecisive sometime (not me)
- don't act enough on what they want, do what they percieve as "society expect" to them and find 1000 rationalization for saying at the end it was a good compromise to do that, that anyway they love what they don't like at first (50% true for me)
- sheep/slave mentality sometime (30% me)
- can be lazy/procrastinating (me)
- can't take risk (70% me, the risk I take is often when Im really informed about it for being secure... Sound strange to disclose that, since many ppl see me as a risk taker)
- require other "total" responsability but sometime don't act on these view of responsability (me - and I don't give a fuck about that)
- importantly, the internal process of the INFj is : what is a percieved good action or bad action is the result of their fear firstly. They want all ppl equal because they fear being hit by stronger than them. And INFj see many ppl as stronger than them. They have no ballz. If you want they are not "alpha male" (lol). (me - the source of greatest disconfort/paradox in myself, but in the same time very interesting)
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-Scatterbrained, have too many things going or thinking about what to do at a certain moment and can't decide the order or the importance of them or their pragmatic value...may just keep working on everything