Originally Posted by
Loki
I'm guessing he was making an objective comparison with the photos and simply saying what he saw (with out thinking about feelings). So in that way, it's not really insensitive. It's just not seeing the implications of saying something like that... It might be recognized if there was enough disturbance in her behavior to indicate it hurt her feelings, at which point it would fall together in his mind... And if it really bothered her deeply eventually her feelings would be made known (via Fe), whether in that instance, or in reaction to a string of such instances later. Then I'm guessing he would try to fix it, in the way Sirena mentioned. Then she would know he didn't mean any of the things by it that she thought he might mean, that it was only saying what he saw, and there wouldn't be a reason to continue feeling hurt... It could all be forgotten and easily moved past. And I'm thinking over time he might become more aware of which things produce the "hurt Fe" responses, and navigate better increasingly over time. While she might start getting better at not being easily hurt by things that weren't meant in a hurtful way to begin with, and might start to feel more grounded and simply look at things as they are (without feeling hurt about them, instead seeing the humor in them). So I think that in the long run, it might work out nicely.