Romancing styles "victim" types: controlled or matched?
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I like this, esper. Coming back with some fire, it seems. Anyway, I generally agree with your sentiments. Only a meek ****** actually wants to be controlled. Now, I think being a 4 also has something to do with this, because the desire is for someone to recognize, appreciate and come "get" us. I can't say I don't get attached strongly, thus losing some control, but as far as initially wanting to be dominated, or being some brat to be spanked, nah. I need the other person to be solid, to be able to withstand the tumult, and who will be a very good challenge. The last thing you quoted, I think, was sort of accurate. Victims acting aggressive as a means to challenge [the solidity of] their partner; I think this generally holds true. I want to make sure that they are "up to the task." Aggressors themselves don't seem to be bothered with such concerns over strength; it's more of an implicit knowing for them, in a way (like our duals who are E8s, heh). Anyway, good posts.