Originally Posted by
Ezra
Someone once said that Beta NFs want to be told what to do, whereas Delta NFs want to be told how to do it.
I don't know how true this is. What I do know is that Delta NFs are far more peaceable people than Beta NFs. There is far less passion and energy that arises from them. While IEIs are pretty much introverted in every sense of the word, they still have an intensity which you just don't get with Delta NFs. Consider Minde and glamourama. With Minde, what I get is a very calm, centred individual who wouldn't look out of place at an "all faiths" meeting or something. They're the kind of people you just can't touch because they're such gentle individuals. Even when they're annoyed; they're utterly harmless. However, although IEIs have this kind of quiet edge to them (I don't really know how else to explain it), I don't feel afraid of breaking them, you know? Lying in bed with an EII; I could imagine feeling like I'd have to be really careful with them. But with IEIs, I have few qualms about playing rough. I feel like they can take it, and that they actually enjoy it. Not so much the masochistic side of it (although you probably do encounter some IEI masochists), but more the passion and energy; they feed off the energy a Se ego gives them. EIIs would hate this. They need to be treated with the utmost delicacy.
When it comes down to the extroverts of each quadra, it's a different story, but I think it's even easier to be rougher with the Se HA EIE, and you could treat the IEE with SLIGHTLY - note SLIGHTLY - less care than an EII, but you still have to be far more careful with the Delta NFs than with the Beta NFs. Okay, everyone has a vulnerable heart (even Beta STs), but I feel less like I could offend a Beta NF. I dunno. I just feel more at home with them.
This may not at all help you. My sentiments regarding the NFs of my own quadra and those of the Delta kind are very hard to put into words. You might not understand at all where I'm coming from with all this. In fact, no one might.