Originally Posted by
BLauritson
From what I've observed, there seems to be two schools of thought regarding this. One school seems to be that the super-ego block is something we're constantly aware of and strive to try and improve but fail miserably and thus spend our lives in eternal pain, suffering and misery. OK, maybe not quite that exaggerated, but you get the picture.
The other school, which I obviously agree with, hence my satire of the first one, is that it's something we don't normally care about, but to be criticised in that area (directly or indirectly) causes psychological pain for reasons I can't get my head round. There's probably variations on both of these but that's the most common pattern I've noticed in Socionics literature online.
Basically my personal take on it all is the following:
- it's something you consider unimportant in life
- it's stressful to be in a situation that requires heavy use of your super-ego functions
- (I'm less certain on this one; I don't have enough data or experience to validate it) criticisms relating to your super-ego block cause you to worry about matters relating to your super-id block (an example being when an ESE I used to work with had a go at me for being visibly unhappy at a work party (yes, she really was that shallow. In my experience though, most ESEs aren't like that at all. Thus I feel confident in saying that was an individual trait of hers rather than something type-related), I'd interpreted what she said as that I'd personally offended all my coworkers and thus I started worrying about the status of my relationship with said coworkers. This in turn is validated by the fact that when I noticed they were acting normally towards me, i.e. not shunning me or showing any begrudgement against me, I quickly stopped worrying about it as I realised (from my own perspective at least) that she was just talking bollocks). I say I'm less certain on this one because although that experience and other, lesser, experiences seem to stir that thought pattern within me personally, I don't really know how much it would apply to other individuals. Mainly because I don't have a deep enough understanding of all the functions to visualise how it would work for them. But anyway, I'm rambling.
- I've completely forgotten everything else I had planned to say here, but chances are I would've written it then removed it due to lack of certainty anyway. Quite frankly I can't even remember where I was going with all of this...I dunno. A lot of it's probably wrong anyway since I (fortunately) don't often experience PoLR hits and I don't have many real life examples of others being in such a situation.