Why I Hate Being IEI-INFp
Sure the sex is great, but:
- I am sick of how it is physically impossible for me to emit the word “no.”
- I am tired of people suddenly staring at me all shocked, when I express any measure of anger. WHAT'S SO SHOCKING IN THAT I CAN BE ANGRY?? I’M ONLY HUMAN, NOT A SAINT!!!
- I am sick of being mothered... by 9-year-old girls.
- Why is it people either dont take me seriously at all, or take me way too seriously?
- If I hear any of the following again, I swear I will shoot my brains out: "Don't let people push you around like that!" -- "Stand up for yourself, man!" -- "You're so cute!"
- I hate that I threaten suicide at the stupidest things. Witness the above bullet-point.
- I'm sick of pining after women from afar.
- Why does everything hurt so bad?? Screw empathy. It sucks. I'm tired of feeling other people's pain. From now on you can feel your own Goddamned pain!!!
- You know that feeling where it feels like you've forgotten something, or worse, someone? Well, that's what it's like to be an INFp...
- Half the music I listen to makes me choke up like a pussy on Valium.
- Why can't we all just get along?? Stop the hatin'! I swear I'll throw myself off a bridge if you people can't stop being assholes!
- I hate it that the most threatening thing I'm capable of is harming... myself. Actually.. I lie.. the most threatening thing I'm capable of - without feeling guilty afterwards - is harming myself... actually... I would feel guilty for harming myself, too... fuck it.
- Why is it the only occupations I would ever be happy with will guarantee that I will die without a penny to my name?
- Why is it that, as a kid, my ESTp brother could get away with bloody murder, and I couldn't even use a "big-big-D" (Damn) without getting shocked gasps from relatives who don't even live on this continent, or being told by my parents that relatives who died decades ago would also have gasped?
- Why am I so unthreatening?
- Why do I care so much about the fucking meaning of life??
- I feel stupid for posting this because it comes off as a desperate cry for attention.
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Originally Posted by Baby
- Why can't we all just get along?? Stop the hatin'! I swear I'll throw myself off a bridge if you people can't stop being assholes!
That was aimed at me...
Anyway, as for the feeling pain part, I guess you can never really change that. On the other hand, thinkers always think about things in a cold way, which makes them always view themselves as assholes. And the persistance parts... I think that sounds like a lack of the extraverted (Se?) functions.
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Originally Posted by Baby
Sure the sex is great, but:
Nice silver lining.
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- I am sick of how it is physically impossible for me to emit the word “no.”
That's so true. The closest I have gotten is giving pained looks in the hopes that they realise I didn't want them to ask that of me.
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- I am tired of people suddenly staring at me all shocked, when I express any measure of anger. WHAT'S SO SHOCKING IN THAT I CAN BE ANGRY?? I’M ONLY HUMAN, NOT A SAINT!!!
Ditto. Negative emotions are only bad in my house when I have them.
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- I am sick of being mothered... by 9-year-old girls.
:(
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- Why is it people either dont take me seriously at all, or take me way too seriously?
I want to know that one too!!!
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- If I hear any of the following again, I swear I will shoot my brains out: "Don't let people push you around like that!" -- "Stand up for yourself, man!" -- "You're so cute!"
Uh-huh. And of course, if we did stand up for ourselves they'd give us that shocked look and ask us what traumatic event has occurred this week. And the recipient of our assertiveness will just turn it around to make it look like we're hurting them, dammit!
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- I hate that I threaten suicide at the stupidest things. Witness the above bullet-point.
Yeah :(
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- I'm sick of pining after women from afar.
Also true.
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- Why does everything hurt so bad?? Screw empathy. It sucks. I'm tired of feeling other people's pain. From now on you can feel your own Goddamned pain!!!
I'll let you know if ever I find the off-switch for that.
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- You know that feeling where it feels like you've forgotten something, or worse, someone? Well, that's what it's like to be an INFp...
We are an anxious lot, aren't we? :(
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- Half the music I listen to makes me choke up like a pussy on Valium.
I don't mind that all that much, actually. I suppose I'm "allowed" to be emotional due to my two X chromosomes. Gender stereotypes suck.
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- Why can't we all just get along?? Stop the hatin'! I swear I'll throw myself off a bridge if you people can't stop being assholes!
*makes picket sign with similar message*
Where shall we hold our protest?
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- I hate it that the most threatening thing I'm capable of is harming... myself. Actually.. I lie.. the most threatening thing I'm capable of - without feeling guilty afterwards - is harming myself... actually... I would feel guilty for harming myself, too... fuck it.
I have too many scars on my arms and legs. I wish I could just lash out.
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- Why is it the only occupations I would ever be happy with will guarantee that I will die without a penny to my name?
Yes.
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- Why is it that, as a kid, my ESTp brother could get away with bloody murder, and I couldn't even use a "big-big-D" (Damn) without getting shocked gasps from relatives who don't even live on this continent, or being told by my parents that relatives who died decades ago would also have gasped?
Goddammit you're right! My ESFp brother can do no wrong, and even in school I would get in trouble for things everybody else got away with. What the fuck? Is it deliberate? Why do they want to pick on us? Makes me think I must just be evil inside or something because I can't think of what I might have done to deserve it.
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- Why am I so unthreatening?
And why do they laugh when I try to be aggressive?
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- Why do I care so much about the fucking meaning of life??
And why does it bother people so much that I do?
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- I feel stupid for posting this because it comes off as a desperate cry for attention.
:(
Re: Why I Hate Being INFp
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Originally Posted by Baby
Sure the sex is great, but:
- I am sick of how it is physically impossible for me to emit the word “no.”
- I am tired of people suddenly staring at me all shocked, when I express any measure of anger. WHAT'S SO SHOCKING IN THAT I CAN BE ANGRY?? I’M ONLY HUMAN, NOT A SAINT!!!
- I am sick of being mothered... by 9-year-old girls.
- Why is it people either dont take me seriously at all, or take me way too seriously?
- If I hear any of the following again, I swear I will shoot my brains out: "Don't let people push you around like that!" -- "Stand up for yourself, man!" -- "You're so cute!"
- I hate that I threaten suicide at the stupidest things. Witness the above bullet-point.
- I'm sick of pining after women from afar.
- Why does everything hurt so bad?? Screw empathy. It sucks. I'm tired of feeling other people's pain. From now on you can feel your own Goddamned pain!!!
- You know that feeling where it feels like you've forgotten something, or worse, someone? Well, that's what it's like to be an INFp...
- Half the music I listen to makes me choke up like a pussy on Valium.
- Why can't we all just get along?? Stop the hatin'! I swear I'll throw myself off a bridge if you people can't stop being assholes!
- I hate it that the most threatening thing I'm capable of is harming... myself. Actually.. I lie.. the most threatening thing I'm capable of - without feeling guilty afterwards - is harming myself... actually... I would feel guilty for harming myself, too... fuck it.
- Why is it the only occupations I would ever be happy with will guarantee that I will die without a penny to my name?
- Why is it that, as a kid, my ESTp brother could get away with bloody murder, and I couldn't even use a "big-big-D" (Damn) without getting shocked gasps from relatives who don't even live on this continent, or being told by my parents that relatives who died decades ago would also have gasped?
- Why am I so unthreatening?
- Why do I care so much about the fucking meaning of life??
- I feel stupid for posting this because it comes off as a desperate cry for attention.
*hug* =( I understand how you feel and I dont think it is a desperate cry for attention. Life does not make sense and seriously blows at times.
This is only partially related and I doubt helpful but I was thinking of it so... I think, and this may aid in Megan's question of me, INXx's are the most suicide prone because it falls into the pattern of isolation that is so directly tied with suicide-patterns of structural functionalism (that social health is just as important as ther other aspects of survival due to being highly social beings). The detachment from being both I and N together must be extremely difficult on many levels when dealing with this aspect.
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Originally Posted by Jadae
This is only partially related and I doubt helpful but I was thinking of it so... I think, and this may aid in Megan's question of me, INXx's are the most suicide prone because it falls into the pattern of isolation that is so directly tied with suicide-patterns of structural functionalism (that social health is just as important as ther other aspects of survival due to being highly social beings). The detachment from being both I and N together must be extremely difficult on many levels when dealing with this aspect.
This is actually something I had to witness back in high school, and I don't think I'll ever be able to recover from it. If I go into too much detail, I'm afraid I'll crack, so I guess it will suffice to speak in generalities. I totally agree that N and I are isolating factors which act at odds with the human inclination for social acceptance and understanding. I think MBTI statistics put up INFP as the most likely to commit suicide, and I'm not surprised.
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I wish I could do more on a global scale. That is always nagging at me. The big picture. That macro level is so illusive! Writing children's books has always intrigued me. ANYWAY, I just had to pop in and contribute my share of ass-talk.
That's actually another one of the points I forgot to make! For some odd reason, we INFps are never truly content to work on a limited scale - it has to be global, universal, etc. It's an exercise in futility, obviously. I've also been told that INTx's have the selfsame compulsion.
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Originally Posted by Darklord
@ Baby: The empathy thing can really suck at times. A part of my "Yet Another Wacko Idea for Reasons I'm So Withdrawn Theory 3245" ( I'll be honest: I've got absolutely zero self-insight) is empathy.
I understand completely; and there is a frustrating link between the withdrawn disposition and that emphathetic inclination - I can get very down on myself when I find myself unable to really do something with that empathy. Something in me envies the ENFx ability to give a voice to their Fi, whilst mostof the time, I'm too busy living in my own head to accomplish anything like that.
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Bad sleep pattern (Typical j trait, I believe?)
Not a j trait I don't think... possibly under influence of N - I have terrible sleep habits; I love sleep, just I can't get to sleep when I want and can't find it when I need it. :P