Originally Posted by
discourse
I wish I could help you, but I'm afraid that even if could know how to, making this topic public, would bring all sort of bully people into here to post insults. Because there's a lot of people outside usually, who feel vulnerable, when intimate subjects are made open. And they usually respond to that uncomfortable situation, by denying it and acting hatefully.
For example,let's take an hypothetic situation. They're guests in relatives. He and he's family. But he feels that, he has unresolved matters related to he's uncle . But he feels that the problem will be brought up . So he denies it . Intimately he knows that the roots of the problem are in himself. He doesn't like who he is. And uncle likes to rub into he's face how he didn't manage the college. So when he feels again, that this painful problem is becoming opened. He steps into defense. And he acts agressivly. By blaming others. And doing them down the zero. Knowing, when it all ends, that he is guilty. And he needs to change himself.
(Yeah, I know, my English syntax is bad).
So I just wanted to say something nice. Trust in yourself. Trust others. Find a solution to it with friends who are close to you.