My problem with how people "change" types here on the forum
Look - you have to realize that no matter how many types you've considered, or how many times you've changed your considerations, that you have been and always will be the same type.
It is completely ludicrous how people keep flipping back and forth - who are you fooling? Are you really just not sure? I mean, in your mind, is what you are doing appearing reasonable? "Oh yeah, I changed my type again...".
I am not sure if I am addressing this with enough lucidity, but, do you understand what I am getting at?
There is a world of difference between every type. You are not "torn" between two types, the misunderstanding is in your own head. You are clearly and fully one type. It is your job (or it ought to be) to figure out what that type is, by being honest with yourself. It isn't about "oh, I relate to parts of what this says, and parts of this too.... so I must be a little of both". No, no, no. It doesn't work that way.
People seem to cling to "well it is perfectly ok if I relate to that, even though it is not in this profile!". Like it has some sort of meaning. You have to stop thinking in terms of whatever regular thought pattern you are using and look at things from a socionics, type-orientated perspective.
(This is also why it is extremely irritating when people say certain things about my type, or comments like "Hey, you seem to be showing weak Se lately - are you sure about your type? Have you considered this?" or, "Hey, you seem to be showing strong Se lately - are you sure about your type?" I mean....... don't you understand how foolish those sorts of comments are?)
Anyways, moving on: another thing -
Deciding between INFp and INFj - that is a world of difference, folks! It is not "just one letter". Those to types are worlds apart. One is victim, one is infantile. Fe Fi. Beta Delta. And so on. The point here is, when you are torn between ANY two types, there is VAST difference between them. If you are going to be torn between two, at least have them be mirrors, I suppose.
Crossing the Fe/Fi line, especially repeatedly, is completely uncalled for. And it is not just Fe/Fi, it is Fe&Ti vs Te&Fi. If you don't know if you are Fe or Fi, that is a huge problem. That is a huge problem and you have to work that out ASAP. That is definitely one of the most evident lines there is in socionics, and if you are not aware of that, then you really need to work it out and look at what is going on in how people are acting around you. Interpersonally it ought to be very clear to you which side of that line you fall on.
Similarly, Se/Si.
That one might be a little more difficult, but once you figure out Fe/Fi, determining which of the two quadras you fall into should become clear. (because each of the remaining quadras values either Se or Si, and not both)
From there you should at least have a solid quadra. And from that quadra you have your temperment and other things. So, just use that plan! You absolutely should not be wandering between the quadras, especially opposing ones. If you find yourself wondering which of the opposing quadras you are in, start over, do something else, that is just foolish.