Originally Posted by
UDP
I'm sorry, my thread is unclear, and my question seems like the typical anti-Fe thing.
Yeah, I guess that is a good place to start.
One of the issues I had with this person, which was probably an unhealthy person, was that their cheery atmosphere and attempts at "being very nice" were in such contradiction to other things they did, "behind the scenes". This person is very guarded about "her business", and she is actually a person who was involved in domestic violence against her husband. And I don't understand why she expends so much effort on pleasantries and such, and how they mean so much to her, when she treats people, albeit in private, in certain ways. In more malicious ways. And how she expects these things to be totally separate.
But mostly how you can still value and act pleasant and be nice, when, your true character - who you are when no one else is around, in intimate situations - is very bad.