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im glad u mentioned this- for some reason i like being the victim during sex and all of my fantasies are with being the victim too. it remings me of the sex and the city episode where carrie asks, "could it be that what we don't like IRL, we love in sex?" i think there may be some truth to this in that thinking sex = lack of inhibition that during sex you let go of who you usually are. idk tho, who knows. like what would a caregiver be like during sex? maybe it's not necessarily type-related.
hmmm well i guess that would not fit with your erotic attitude of aggressor. but in fantasies, even though you might be the "victim" you're really not. since anything and everything we can come up with in a fantasy is pretty much under our own mind control. so you can come up with fantasies that would never play in IRL the way you make them play out in your fantasy. like if a woman fantasized about having sex with two men she could make those men in her fantasy do whatever she wanted. IRL, i doubt things with two men would go down in a way that a woman really wanted. like, IRL, the men would bond and treat the woman badly. it def would not be all about her.
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I don't feel like I show a real preference for the stereotypical victim or agressor roles as they are thought about. I'm not particularly aggressive IRL so I don't have pent up frustration to use in bed, but I'm not a pussy either. In bed thus depends on how I'm feeling at the moment, sometimes it's nice to take the lead and be very assertive, sometimes it's nice to let the girl do everything she wants with you.
I prefer to be the initiator in terms of romantic relationships (probably due to my strong extraversion too), although I do need the girl to show interest in me afterwards, otherwise I tend to doubt it (but who doesn't need his-her partner to show interest??)
this sounds exactly like something my ex would say. yet more evidence of your SLE-ness. ;)