Where to find/meet ILIs-INTps?
In the "Where do SEEs go?" thread, ILIs comment on how and where to find SEEs but my question is where do us SEEs find ILIs? I feel like it's much harder for us to find you guys than for you guys to find us just because of our interests and the nature of our functions- our interests make us more likely to be out in the real world than ILIs. So question #1- where can we find us some ILIs? Question#2- do you think we could work together as duals realistically IRL? Yes, we're duals and theoretically we can and should be able to work, but I feel as if out of all the duals, we have the most difficulties in making it work IRL because of our different interests and the nature of our types. Question #3- do you know of any SEE-ILI couples IRL, how do they make it work if at all? I needs to find me a good ILI man :(
Re: SEEs & ILIs in reality?
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Originally Posted by liveandletlive
In the "Where do SEEs go?" thread, ILIs comment on how and where to find SEEs but my question is where do us SEEs find ILIs? I feel like it's much harder for us to find you guys than for you guys to find us just because of our interests and the nature of our functions- our interests make us more likely to be out in the real world than ILIs. So question #1- where can we find us some ILIs? Question#2- do you think we could work together as duals realistically IRL? Yes, we're duals and theoretically we can and should be able to work, but I feel as if out of all the duals, we have the most difficulties in making it work IRL because of our different interests and the nature of our types. Question #3- do you know of any SEE-ILI couples IRL, how do they make it work if at all? I needs to find me a good ILI man :(
1) You can find some ILI's when you go out, they are the silent ones...
It seems you could find many on chess clubs or fantasy board games I've been told...
Many can be found on the internet too I guess
2) Yes it could work out wonderful as I've experienced myself (if I didn't mess up we would have certainly married and live long and happely)
3) Yes, check the answer at question 2.
I really think you are doing a good thing to find yourself an ILI. Dual relationships can be so magically good.
The only advice I can give you is that not all ILI's are the same, some are nice, some are arrogant, some like to party, some like to read...
Looking at your knowledge, age and determination I would say the odds are way in your favour of finding a good ILI man.
Re: SEEs & ILIs in reality?
liveandletlive, first a warning which has been told around here so many times: many people who claim to be ILIs around here are possibly not. So don't listen to everyone who has ILI or INTp in their signature.
Second, I have seen successful ESFp / INTp couples but not at the age of <20. Teenage and even early 20+ ESFps and INTps seem pretty much incompatible. Only when INTps grow out of their all knowing schizoid-autistic prick stage and ESFps finally realize what a real human relationship is about they start to match. I can see how psychologically stable 30+ years old ESFp and INTp make an awesome match. ESFp is much more calmer and concentrated and INTp is much more social and lovable than at younger age. They appreciate each other's skills and personalities a lot more and become more "Gamma-like" i.e. want to concentrate on the "prosper with family" thing.
Re: SEEs & ILIs in reality?
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Originally Posted by Jarno
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Originally Posted by liveandletlive
In the "Where do SEEs go?" thread, ILIs comment on how and where to find SEEs but my question is where do us SEEs find ILIs? I feel like it's much harder for us to find you guys than for you guys to find us just because of our interests and the nature of our functions- our interests make us more likely to be out in the real world than ILIs. So question #1- where can we find us some ILIs? Question#2- do you think we could work together as duals realistically IRL? Yes, we're duals and theoretically we can and should be able to work, but I feel as if out of all the duals, we have the most difficulties in making it work IRL because of our different interests and the nature of our types. Question #3- do you know of any SEE-ILI couples IRL, how do they make it work if at all? I needs to find me a good ILI man :(
1) You can find some ILI's when you go out, they are the silent ones...
It seems you could find many on chess clubs or fantasy board games I've been told...
Many can be found on the internet too I guess
2) Yes it could work out wonderful as I've experienced myself (if I didn't mess up we would have certainly married and live long and happely)
3) Yes, check the answer at question 2.
I really think you are doing a good thing to find yourself an ILI. Dual relationships can be so magically good.
The only advice I can give you is that not all ILI's are the same, some are nice, some are arrogant, some like to party, some like to read...
Looking at your knowledge, age and determination I would say the odds are way in your favour of finding a good ILI man.
awww im sry jarno- i'm sure everything will work out good for u in the end... there's a lot of us SEEs out there too ya no! btw, look at the advice i gave to kabure before about us SEEs... maybe it'll help you figure sum stuff out :)
Re: SEEs & ILIs in reality?
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Originally Posted by XoX
liveandletlive, first a warning which has been told around here so many times: many people who claim to be ILIs around here are possibly not. So don't listen to everyone who has ILI or INTp in their signature.
Second, I have seen successful ESFp / INTp couples but not at the age of <20. Teenage and even early 20+ ESFps and INTps seem pretty much incompatible. Only when INTps grow out of their all knowing schizoid-autistic prick stage and ESFps finally realize what a real human relationship is about they start to match. I can see how psychologically stable 30+ years old ESFp and INTp make an awesome match. ESFp is much more calmer and concentrated and INTp is much more social and lovable than at younger age. They appreciate each other's skills and personalities a lot more and become more "Gamma-like" i.e. want to concentrate on the "prosper with family" thing.
ahhh now im paranoid there's some LIIs in ILI clothing *dun, dun, dun!* haha thanks for the heads up though. Thanks for giving me hope about a future dual relationship!
Re: SEEs & ILIs in reality?
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Originally Posted by liveandletlive
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Originally Posted by XoX
liveandletlive, first a warning which has been told around here so many times: many people who claim to be ILIs around here are possibly not. So don't listen to everyone who has ILI or INTp in their signature.
Second, I have seen successful ESFp / INTp couples but not at the age of <20. Teenage and even early 20+ ESFps and INTps seem pretty much incompatible. Only when INTps grow out of their all knowing schizoid-autistic prick stage and ESFps finally realize what a real human relationship is about they start to match. I can see how psychologically stable 30+ years old ESFp and INTp make an awesome match. ESFp is much more calmer and concentrated and INTp is much more social and lovable than at younger age. They appreciate each other's skills and personalities a lot more and become more "Gamma-like" i.e. want to concentrate on the "prosper with family" thing.
ahhh now im paranoid there's some LIIs in ILI clothing *dun, dun, dun!* haha thanks for the heads up though. Thanks for giving me hope about a future dual relationship!
Oh and about ESFp - ISTp relationships. I can't see them working well. Even if they in theory should not be that bad. From what I've seen they seem to be extremely passivating for both parties. I believe it was you who talked about this at some point. I might misremember though. Then again ESFp - ISFj seems to be a pretty common relationship. They have some problems because of completely opposite temperaments but somehow they seem to be drawn to each other. Much more than ESFp - ISTp anyways.
Edit: Oh and it is good to be a little paranoid. It keeps your senses alert.
Re: SEEs & ILIs in reality?
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Originally Posted by XoX
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Originally Posted by liveandletlive
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Originally Posted by XoX
liveandletlive, first a warning which has been told around here so many times: many people who claim to be ILIs around here are possibly not. So don't listen to everyone who has ILI or INTp in their signature.
Second, I have seen successful ESFp / INTp couples but not at the age of <20. Teenage and even early 20+ ESFps and INTps seem pretty much incompatible. Only when INTps grow out of their all knowing schizoid-autistic prick stage and ESFps finally realize what a real human relationship is about they start to match. I can see how psychologically stable 30+ years old ESFp and INTp make an awesome match. ESFp is much more calmer and concentrated and INTp is much more social and lovable than at younger age. They appreciate each other's skills and personalities a lot more and become more "Gamma-like" i.e. want to concentrate on the "prosper with family" thing.
ahhh now im paranoid there's some LIIs in ILI clothing *dun, dun, dun!* haha thanks for the heads up though. Thanks for giving me hope about a future dual relationship!
Oh and about ESFp - ISTp relationships. I can't see them working well. Even if they in theory should not be that bad. From what I've seen they seem to be extremely passivating for both parties. I believe it was you who talked about this at some point. I might misremember though. Then again ESFp - ISFj seems to be a pretty common relationship. They have some problems because of completely opposite temperaments but somehow they seem to be drawn to each other. Much more than ESFp - ISTp anyways.
Edit: Oh and it is good to be a little paranoid. It keeps your senses alert.
yeah i def agree with u on the whole ISTp thing. I think i'd actually prefer an IEI before an ESI- if socionics has taught me anything it's that i need a little :Ni: in my life
Re: SEEs & ILIs in reality?
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Originally Posted by liveandletlive
Question #3- do you know of any SEE-ILI couples IRL, how do they make it work if at all? I needs to find me a good ILI man :(
I know 2 SEE ILI relationships.
One of the two, I put my finger in it to make it start. Once started it had really no problem at all working. They met at school. The SEE though is a bit strange version of SEE - she's extremely extraverted but also a slightly insular person, meaning that she can spend a lot of time only working and seeing her boyfriend/family. The ILI otoh is somewhat a busy person because has some positions of responsibility at university. They live togheter now. I notice the ILI is very tolerant (from my perspective) of SEE's periodic aggressivness, I would always fight back whereas they tend not to care.
The other of the two seem to be more typical. The ILI is nerdy, likes videogames, board games and card games. Even though, he's also a very good looking guy even if he takes zero care of his appearance. The SEE is a preppy party-goer. It is very interesting to see them interact, the ILI brings up a Magic or Yu-Gi-Ho card and starts blabbering about it, while the SEE will start commenting on the physical features of the character :lol:
Re: SEEs & ILIs in reality?
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Originally Posted by FDG
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Originally Posted by liveandletlive
Question #3- do you know of any SEE-ILI couples IRL, how do they make it work if at all? I needs to find me a good ILI man :(
I know 2 SEE ILI relationships.
One of the two, I put my finger in it to make it start. Once started it had really no problem at all working. They met at school. The SEE though is a bit strange version of SEE - she's extremely extraverted but also a slightly insular person, meaning that she can spend a lot of time only working and seeing her boyfriend/family. The ILI otoh is somewhat a busy person because has some positions of responsibility at university. They live togheter now. I notice the ILI is very tolerant (from my perspective) of SEE's periodic aggressivness, I would always fight back whereas they tend not to care.
The other of the two seem to be more typical. The ILI is nerdy, likes videogames, board games and card games. Even though, he's also a very good looking guy even if he takes zero care of his appearance. The SEE is a preppy party-goer. It is very interesting to see them interact, the ILI brings up a Magic or Yu-Gi-Ho card and starts blabbering about it, while the SEE will start commenting on the physical features of the character :lol:
haha awww they seem so cute!