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Originally Posted by niffweed17
on tanehem's site, expat made an interesting sort of observation that whereas super-ego and polr hits can be painful and conflict-starting, they aren't truly psychologically devastating; they merely reflect areas that we are unconcerned with and that are perceived as a waste of time/unimportant/etc.
by constrast, the dual-seeking function reflects an area that we truly value and can't deal with. the idea is that hits to your dual-seeking function, by somebody confident in your super-id functions, are much more difficult to deal with.
expat gave the example of an EII buying a house, asking an SLI to do housework, and being informed that "you paid too much for this house, you'll never be able to get it working by yourself, and you should just try to sell it and get rid of it already since you have no idea how to keep it from falling apart and can't make rational economic decisions."
this example is rather obviously geared towards Si and Te problems. the idea is that these problems represent such fundamental uncertainty and difficulty towards an EII that they can't handle this type of criticism at all.
i created this thread primarily to ask about what you people think about the ILI one that i created, which i can't post right now because i literally have about three seconds to finish this, but it has to do i think with SeFi problems. i'll post this later.
Comments like that would make me defensive and want to cry at the same time. It's the despairing "Why are you asking me this? I can't/couldn't do any better!" I'd really want to, but be very unsure how to go about it. Or it would be something I know very well that I need, but since I know I'm bad at it sort of half expect that other people should be able to do it for me. Or at least be able to show me what to do, give me some sort of guidance.
Whereas with PoLR hits it's more like, "Ugh, why are you asking this of me. I shouldn't have to do this." Wanting people to stop because not only am I bad at it but it seems unnecessary.
So I just sort of uncomfortably shrug it off if at all possible. Or try to find other ways of compensating.
Is that sort of what you were getting at?