Bouncing back from tragedy
I would like to hear some examples on how different types deal with things that devastate them emotionally
I am currently in a situation I would rather not be in and frankly cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel yet. Usually I am VERY good at this.. but I think since I am aging I think I have less and less optimism.. I do seem to be good at seeing it for others.. a recent example: telling an ISTj that it's not a failure that counts but how you react to it; seemed to help her. Now, I think this could work for myself but I think it has to have some kind of rational basis.. I also think I have trouble having confidence unless I have some kind of path to follow.
How do you a) handle yourself in tough times and b) how do you get through it?
Re: Bouncing back from tragedy
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Originally Posted by Ms. Kensington
I would like to hear some examples on how different types deal with things that devastate them emotionally
I am currently in a situation I would rather not be in and frankly cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel yet. Usually I am VERY good at this.. but I think since I am aging I think I have less and less optimism.. I do seem to be good at seeing it for others.. a recent example: telling an ISTj that it's not a failure that counts but how you react to it; seemed to help her. Now, I think this could work for myself but I think it has to have some kind of rational basis.. I also think I have trouble having confidence unless I have some kind of path to follow.
How do you a) handle yourself in tough times and b) how do you get through it?
I try to let my emotions do whatever they want - without negatively affecting other people, of course. So I usually go through that part in private. And I think about and try to focus on my purpose in life and what I know is good and true. I do a lot of thinking. Sometimes writing helps, too.
If I've lost someone I loved, it helps to think about all the good they were in my life, how they and the time they were with me were a gift.
But I let my emotions pretty much do whatever they want. If they're sad, I let myself be sad. If I'm numb or apathetic, I let that happen, too. From what I can tell, feeling one way or another isn't bad or good. It just is. What I do in reaction to feelings, though, I try to be more careful of.
Is that what you were asking?
Re: Bouncing back from tragedy