Gammas openly criticizing others: sign of care or lack of tact?
I would like to know more about this. This meaning, I think that gamma types think that criticizing those close to them, like a family member or others in their work team, is something that shows you care about them, or rather it's a sign that you are close with them.
Is this perception correct? I've experienced this in my family which seems understandable, but most recently I had two gammas criticize me openly in our public work area, i thought this was inappropriate and wondered if this was type related or just rude or something.. heh
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Originally Posted by Ms. Kensington
I would like to know more about this. This meaning, I think that gamma types think that criticizing those close to them, like a family member or others in their work team, is something that shows you care about them, or rather it's a sign that you are close with them.
Is this perception correct? I've experienced this in my family which seems understandable, but most recently I had two gammas criticize me openly in our public work area, i thought this was inappropriate and wondered if this was type related or just rude or something.. heh
you'd probably see this type of behavior from delta or gamma. it seems Te & Fi.
alpha and beta are going to either take you aside or joke through it by teasing in a way which gets everybody including you to laugh.
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Originally Posted by Ms. Kensington
I would like to know more about this. This meaning, I think that gamma types think that criticizing those close to them, like a family member or others in their work team, is something that shows you care about them, or rather it's a sign that you are close with them.
Is this perception correct? I've experienced this in my family which seems understandable, but most recently I had two gammas criticize me openly in our public work area, i thought this was inappropriate and wondered if this was type related or just rude or something.. heh
you'd probably see this type of behavior from delta or gamma. it seems Te & Fi.
alpha and beta are going to either take you aside or joke through it by teasing in a way which gets everybody including you to laugh.
Not all Alpha, but ILE's can be brutal with criticism...
Read the part about :Fi: in Stratievskaya's description of ILE. When a ILE really criticizes you or tries to control you, that's when he's getting close.
She's very harsh about ILE's but I think it's mostly in part true of us.
I think we shouldn't narrow this down to Quadra behavior, it's might be related to strong feeling vs weak feeling.
And a work team, I have no trouble expressing my opinion, depending on how long we've worked together, politely or perhaps informally. But a work team is not close to me, never have been, never will be.
p'rhaps so...i can be critical, but not usually with people i'm close to. i'm most critical when i'm teaching. when supervising, you have to be careful. in a family, you have to be careful. in teamwork situations you have to be careful. but hey, it's just what i've learned. really, you have to be careful with criticism in all situations.
Re: Gammas criticizing those close to them
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Originally Posted by Ms. Kensington
I would like to know more about this. This meaning, I think that gamma types think that criticizing those close to them, like a family member or others in their work team, is something that shows you care about them, or rather it's a sign that you are close with them.
Is this perception correct? I've experienced this in my family which seems understandable, but most recently I had two gammas criticize me openly in our public work area, i thought this was inappropriate and wondered if this was type related or just rude or something.. heh
I almost always criticize privately as i think i am generally more effective this way. i hardly ever criticize for petty faults. i often criticize people for what i thought were a series of errors of a period of time -- amounting to quite a large, often unredeemable, error. the impact tends to be more significant when you criticize a pattern of behavior for what it produced rather than an incident of behavior removed from any thought of consequence. i wonder if other gammas are like this -- criticizing patterns of behavior rather than incidents and, as a result, criticizing more heavily, not necessarily more often.
example:
it's like i would not care that my mother would never come to my activities (one incident)
yet i cared that, overall, she could not understand how to be my mother (trend over time)
and if i ever expressed a complaint to her, it would be the latter type, i guess assuming that she'd actually want to become a better mother, when most of the time she did not. so yes, in some way, it's a "caring" thing.