Originally Posted by discojoe
I hate parties. I just don't care for being in a big, loud environment unless it's with people I am close to. If that condition is met, my ideal party is a setting where everybody is comfortable and there is no weird chemistry or friction.
If I were throwing the party, I would be concerned with everyone feeling welcome and having enough to eat and drink, and I would adjust my demeanor according to the dispositions of the people there. Around extroverts I tend to ask a lot of questions and mostly listen, and around a lot of introverts I put on a bit of a show and pretty much become ESFp to inject some energy into the atmosphere (my introverted friends always think I'm extroverted, and my extroverted friends always think I'm the quietest person they know).
I would try to make sure that each guest can find food that they like, so I would ask them about their preferences ahead of time. As far as alcohol goes, I would only serve beer, because it's less likely that people will get really drunk and embarrass themselves or not be able to get home.
Really though, I hate the typical party. I used to go to big keggers at a college in Florida every Friday, and my INTp friend and I would spend most of the night sitting away from everyone else, discussing philosophy and science and literature. I consider parties an excuse to hide with someone interesting and actually have a (to me) stimulating discussion. Trying to participate in alpha/beta time at parties just makes me feel ashamed and immature.