Favorable intertype relationships besides duality

Thanks Redbaron. I'm wondering what sort of 'SEIs' you girls hang around with. I'm not obvious about my feelings (to a fault), I'm certainly not clingy or needy (to a fault) and the SEIs I know aren't like that either. Maybe I'm shyer than most, but I'm pretty private about my feelings and don't go around with my heart on my sleeve.

I think you're confusing common courtesy with real feelings.

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Originally Posted by Jem

I think you're confusing common courtesy with real feelings.

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i find making other people think my friendliness means more than it does was a huge problem for me in the past. Now I just don't associate with people.

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Originally Posted by redbaron

well I think "you girls" would like a male ISFp. The one I was friends with was kinda mysterious and not one to fawn (over his wife or any woman). He constantly kept me guessing about what he thought about stuff yet it was clear to me that he enjoyed the friendship (without being at ALL clingy or obvious). I found him intriguing and I loved how understated he always was. One of the great things about SEIs is their desire for independence and alone time. Keeps them from being needy or demanding in their relationships. but I guess all of this has been said before.

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i'd say you described them well, and at their best.

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Originally Posted by Ms. Kensington

i find making other people think my friendliness means more than it does was a huge problem for me in the past. Now I just don't associate with people.

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at all?

I don't know if I know any SEI's. I'm going off what I see and hear around these parts, and most of it gives this impression of some kind of emotional psycho.

At this point I believe I've just stopped caring about it. Things will happen when they happen. If they don't then they don't and I will be a cat lady. Or madame Bijoux. Perhaps both.

To meet SEIs, hang out at gardening stores & art museums. Eventually you'll see them. They're the ones who are relatively quiet but with a very obvious expression of enjoyment & contentment on their face. You may hear things such as "oh wow....it's beautiful....I love those colors...I think I'm getting hungry" lol

awwww, I love em.

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Originally Posted by redbaron

To meet SEIs, hang out at gardening stores & art museums. Eventually you'll see them. They're the ones who are relatively quiet but with a very obvious expression of enjoyment & contentment on their face. You may hear things such as "oh wow....it's beautiful....I love those colors...I think I'm getting hungry" lol

awwww, I love em.

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lol exactly.

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Originally Posted by redbaron

To meet SEIs, hang out at gardening stores & art museums. Eventually you'll see them. They're the ones who are relatively quiet but with a very obvious expression of enjoyment & contentment on their face. You may hear things such as "oh wow....it's beautiful....I love those colors...I think I'm getting hungry" lol

awwww, I love em.

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D'awwww, I want one! I'll love it and hold it and keep it for ever and ever. We can have a cozy home and they can make it pretty and-

Oh, goodness, hormones. Stop it now!

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Originally Posted by EllaC

It's sold that your dual is the ideal romantic relationship. But what about other relations? In all of your lovely experience, which relations appear most in relationships?

I've decided I hate my dual more than any type, as for the first time they come out top, and I bottom. Perhaps my own typing, and their typing is wrong. But I don't think so.

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im fixated though weary of my dual. i know i could get locked into their narcisisstic agenda. i used to want it more than anything, but now i'm commitmentphobic. i was thinking just the other day about how i get locked into socionics...i have to say, though, i still feel the strongest connection with my quadra members.

so maybe you would like keirsey's lay out for relationships a supervisory relationship he recommends. he always pairs rationals and idealists. i think those marriages can last, but are old fashioned and both partners have to be hella self actualizing.

I'll just stick with girls that digg me. Thanks socionics.

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Originally Posted by LokiVanguard

I'll just stick with girls that digg me. Thanks socionics.

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yeah, good strategy.

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Originally Posted by Jem

at all?

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you asked if i associate with people

not really much