My relationship with this INTp guy
Ok so I know this is gonna sound like a Dear Abby post but whatever...
So there's this ILI that I've been hooking up with and he told me how he feels conflicted because he wants his independence and doesn't want a girlfriend yet he still wants someone to love (aww) anyway, i like him but I kinda feel the same way. The wierd thing is we usually end up having sleepovers most weekends anyway. In my experience with ILI's I'm the one thats cheering them up and giving them a reason to go on (as dramatic as that sounds) so I feel like I should be the one to make the initiative for us to be something more since we pretty much are anyway but I'm scared since ILI's can be fickle and when they feel like someone is trying to impede on their freedom freak out. What should I do? I don't necessarily want a relationship with him but I want to be able to cuddle and be able to be cute with him without him thinking im just some crazy attached girl.
i wanted to punch this ILI where the sun don't shine...
OK good duality description...
- Last night my INTp friend comes over and we're drinking a little bit talking about life, whatever. I wanted to make him laugh and I showed him this comic strip I drew in class because everyone who's seen it thought it was hilarious. It was 3 stages of BU love- Stage 1: girl says to boy "I like you!" and boy says "I like you too!" Stage 2: boy has sex with girl saying "Oooohhh yeah!" Stage 3: girl calls boy saying "I miss you" and boy picks up saying "Why are you calling me?" haha i thought he would life as stereotypical as I thought it was. I show him it and he was like I don't get it. And I was like oh c'mon this is the like most overused stereotype in movies and tv and conversations, how could you NOT know this? He flipped a shit and ran out of my house (because he has issues trying to get laid... basically it doesn't happen- i guess he internalized the comic strip's joke??) in which I was running after him in stilettos 4 blocks down the straight until he finally turned around. I apologized and the next 2 hours were dedicated to me having to make up for my actions and try to make him happy while he still looked sad and was still bitching about something that wasn't my fault. THEN i started to just feel disgusted by him and i was about to cry cuz he was being so mean to me- i couldn't even look at him, and then he was like "Is it sick and twisted that I'm happy rite now?" I just walked away from him. This whole thing wasn't even my fault!! We ended up making up he realized he was wrong and I realized I probably shouldn't have been like how can u NOT get this?? and make it even worse. His argument was that he never experienced that situation so therefore he can't know about it... we're fine now i just wanted to show our duality relationship a little and to show that ESFp's aren't the only ones who can't control their emotions.
By the way, if you made it to the end of this you're awesome :wink:
Re: i wanted to punch this ILI where the sun don't shine...
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Originally Posted by liveandletlive
It was 3 stages of BU love- Stage 1: girl says to boy "I like you!" and boy says "I like you too!" Stage 2: boy has sex with girl saying "Oooohhh yeah!" Stage 3: girl calls boy saying "I miss you" and boy picks up saying "Why are you calling me?" haha i thought he would life as stereotypical as I thought it was. I show him it and he was like I don't get it. And I was like oh c'mon this is the like most overused stereotype in movies and tv and conversations, how could you NOT know this?
i understand the stereotype but i don't understand why this is supposed to be funny.
Re: i wanted to punch this ILI where the sun don't shine...
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Originally Posted by niffweed17
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Originally Posted by liveandletlive
It was 3 stages of BU love- Stage 1: girl says to boy "I like you!" and boy says "I like you too!" Stage 2: boy has sex with girl saying "Oooohhh yeah!" Stage 3: girl calls boy saying "I miss you" and boy picks up saying "Why are you calling me?" haha i thought he would life as stereotypical as I thought it was. I show him it and he was like I don't get it. And I was like oh c'mon this is the like most overused stereotype in movies and tv and conversations, how could you NOT know this?
i understand the stereotype but i don't understand why this is supposed to be funny.
it's because it was a really cute cartoon with the boy looking like the boy on the boy's bathroom door and the girl looking like the girl on the girl's bathroom door.
Re: i wanted to punch this ILI where the sun don't shine...
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Originally Posted by liveandletlive
By the way, if you made it to the end of this you're awesome :wink:
Okay, what?
The comic sounds hilarious, but I don't understand the ILI's reaction.
You guys are weird.