What's the difference according to your PoV?Quote:
Originally Posted by Kristiina
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What's the difference according to your PoV?Quote:
Originally Posted by Kristiina
It's the emphasis.Quote:
Originally Posted by Expat
1. The person constantly takes note of what others think of him. When someone thinks bad, then the person has failed. They will try twice as good to be liked by others. (his own personality changing is a side-effect of trying to be liked by others)
2. The person wants to be a better person. He tries really hard to be nice and likable and honorable, etc. When he becomes impolite and annoying, he has failed. (looking for positive reactions from others is just necessary to find out when he has become an annoying person.)
I think that's why ENFjs need ISTjs - I need reliable input of who I have become. I still keep thinking of childhood mistakes to judge who I am now. That's because I don't have enough input on my current personality and I have no idea who I am. When I feel good about my personality, I am unbothered by people who don't like my personality traits. The problem starts when they make me think that I have misjudged my personality. So it is false to say that ENFjs aspire to be liked, which is the same as confirming the common misconception that ENFjs don't know who they are because they keep changing themselves to be liked by others. When I think that most people dislike me I do change my behavior, but it is because of myself not others.
Well, personally I never said or meant that ENFjs necessarily aspire to be liked; actually even to aspire to be disliked is consistent with what I said.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kristiina
I understand what you said, it makes sense and it is pretty much what I was thinking (even if badly phrased).