Conversation with your dual vs conflictor

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Originally Posted by Courage

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Originally Posted by FDG

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Originally Posted by astralsilky

OK, sounds good so far.

But then how do you distinguish between duality versus identity relations in conversation?

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Rarely duals agree with each other completely. There's always a degree of correction, which is not present in identical relations - you will often see identical positivist compliment each other, and identical negativists criticize each other, whereas in duals the pos will compliment the neg, and the neg will not criticize the pos because otherwise he/she'd feel guilty.

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That seems like a good description in general, however, I do criticize my dual INFj. I believe it even says in the gamma rational dual description that there is an element of mutual criticism.

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Ah yeah, true, I always have to make ISFj learn not to criticize me by lashing out.

Indeed.

(Which is why I like INFjs as my dual. They tone me down - I don't think it would do well for me to have to tone other people down like that, or educate them, as FDG does)

I think its more useful to scrutinize their specific temprament than to judge the nature of the interactions...it works better for me anyway. So I'd want to know what your type is and then get your perceptions of the other person's characteristics. I think it's helpful to study how people present themselves and their academic or vocational interests.