You can express negative emotions ("vent") without blaming the other person for them (especially unfairly). The "no sense of humor" part is maybe Fe...
I think you see the person more or less accurately without too much lust/personal narcissistic fantasy ((though it's fine if ppl share fantasies but...
I’ve seen this before. Truth be told, I relate to pieces of both enough that I could argue either way. :shrug: I don’t find it necessary to solve it...