Clarke

A piece of advice for anyone struggling with an oppressor or false dichotomy (being fooled into having 2 choices): Negotiate, or find a way to achieve a third option. Often in a situation, fighting back with raw force is actually useless. The situation might escalate, consuming your own resources. Or perhaps, you'll just be fighting against nothing and draining your own energy.

I guess if you have no choice, you should probably fight back. I would take a defensive stance. Figure out where your standards are, and stick to them instead of going on the offensive. In cases where you have moral conflict, it'll help you, and in other cases it'll prevent you from looking bad to others. I think that revenge isn't necessarily a bad thing. I think that, even better, the threat of it gets your opposition to do what you want, or at least to negotiate.

I would say that you should generally not give in to your oppressor, even if it promises anything ranging from happiness to peace.

I also think that you shouldn't negotiate anything that isn't expendable in some way. Think about the life you want to live and the standards you have, and then give up the resources that aren't necessary for those. The revenge tool could be useful for this.

Generally, if you think that being a certain type would be ideal or would fit what you want to be in life, you're probably that type or something similar to it anyway. It's a bad idea to try to artificially change yourself to be something else. It might seem like it could make you a better person, but you'll probably just become worse and lose competence in your favorite areas until you find a way to get back to normal.

Edit: I no longer have confidence that people are likely to be a certain type if they find it ideal. However, I currently think that you should analyze the facts about yourself and try to see how much you fit into the systems rather than try to categorize yourself and then make assumptions about yourself. I say this because I currently seem to be dealing with contradictory pieces of information when it comes to Socionics.

Likely ESI 2w3 xxOAx Phlegmatic xxLV (likely EFLV). Consider whether people talking about their emotions make you bored.

Popular and official-looking MBTI sites like 16personalities might be useful, since the average person is more likely to be exposed to it. Probably ignore MBTI cognitive functions descriptions.

I'm fairly confident in my own Enneagram.

If EFLV would work, there might also be a chance for ELVF. That might be a more admirable or interesting person. Someone who doesn't seem to have many weaknesses, and seems like an interesting conversation partner. If ELFV doesn't work, then EVLF or LFEV could work (radiance relations). Consider the dormancy of your own 3rd aspect (maybe over a long period of time).

I'm generally more confident about EFLV than FELV. I also think that out of all of the Attitudinal Psyche choices listed above, EFLV would be the ideal choice.

I'm not confident about my Attitudinal Psyche guesses in general. It relies on assumptions that I've made that aren't necessarily true.

Consider So/Sx or Sp/Sx. A complex and interesting person seems like it would be ideal. Someone who has a complex interest in the arts, and is able to produce things that have what would probably be symbolism or deep meaning. Socially aware would also be good. Someone who's aware of or cares about the social sphere. A good handle on ethics is important of course, maybe someone that has kind of a deep knowledge of what's right or wrong. That can play into their artwork.

I think that there might be a compatibility problem with someone who just creates artwork that feels good to them. But that might just be bias from my personal experiences.

Don't take my insight too seriously. It's mostly guesswork based on something that's not necessarily rational. Try to figure out what would be the characteristics of an interesting person.

I would consider other ITR's. I've historically had a far better relationship with my dad (Super-Ego) than my mom (Beneficiary), even though my relationship with my mom probably should be more compatible. My dad and I actually have more to discuss, usually logical topics, than my mom and I. My mom is psychologically boring to me, and though I can occasionally predict her behavior, she doesn't appear to make much sense as a person. I have low sympathy for her as a person. My natural inclination is to doubt that this applies to others that share her type. This conclusion only applies if I'm an EII.

My emotional perspectives and interests in others are subject to change, and are therefore unreliable, but for a short time your mere existence in this world made me happy. Never change.

This message was edited multiple times, and I might need to consider the validity of my older insights.