Conversation Between mclane and niffer

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  1. Good, because I'd rather not lose track of you.
  2. I'll be getting a bit busier soon so I won't be around as much, but I'll let you know first if I want to leave!
  3. niffer, are you thinking about leaving the forum?
  4. =)

    "The inter-type trumps the real relation the two people have" and I agree... all about keeping a healthy distance/boundaries though which could help if it's a potentially problematic ITR.
  5. Btw, niffer:



  6. The inter-type trumps the real relation the two people have, so if for example, a person has their supervisee as their boss, it would be an unnatural situation. It's as if a child ordered their parents around. It would undoubtely cause problems. With the assymetrical intertypes, people don't see each other as equals, there is always a sort of hierarchical order. This is independent of the measure of respect the two people might have; it all has to do with how the relation plays out.
  7. "When the situation reverses, that is called "reversed supervision", and it really is not a good thing. This mostly happens when the supervisee overreacts to the supervising done by the supervisor, or when the supervisee doesn't accept the supervisor because they see them as a "bad" supervisor." If the supervisee is above the supervisor though, then why would they need to overreact to the supervisor in the first place? If the supervisee was above the supervisor, the supervisor would naturally be more careful wouldn't they? They also wouldn't register the supervisor as a supervisor.
    I think in this situation it's better if people see each other as equals somehow in the long run anyway.
  8. I agree with what you have written, except that it is always better when the supervisor has the upper position. When the situation reverses, that is called "reversed supervision", and it really is not a good thing. This mostly happens when the supervisee overreacts to the supervising done by the supervisor, or when the supervisee doesn't accept the supervisor because they see them as a "bad" supervisor. My grandmother is my supervisee, and we get along famously. I think it can be very good for friendship; for romantic relations there is a certain coldness and dissatisfaction (it is classified as a "information exchange" intertype, contrary to the other assymetrical relationship, Benefit, which is a "energy exchange" intertype).

    Imagine for a moment we would not be the types we claim to be. Out of these two intertypes we have discussed, what would fit our relation better in your opinion? Also, who would have the "upper" position?
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